Just wrote this as a comment on this video :

…and thought I would save it here, too,.

OK, listen up kids, because I am going to lay some serious truth on you right now : NOBODY WINS ARGUMENTS. Ever. It never, ever happens. The idea that it is possible is a myth perpetrated by our reptile brains insisting that if we assert our will hard enough, the other person will HAVE to submit to us and admit we are right then run away with their tail between their legs like a whipped puppy. But think about it. Have you ever seen that actually happen? Can you imagine doing it yourself? No! And that’s because unlike with physical violence, the arguers can always simply refuse to submit. And not only can they, they MUST, because when you attack someone’s beliefs, you attack their mental integrity. Submitting would cost them far more than a point of social status. It would mean letting you into their minds to change things as you will. And that’s never acceptable. So in that sense, all arguments are futile. Nobody can ever win. It’s just not possible. Knowing this, you can now see that the point of argument is discussion, not domination. When you argue with someone, it forces both sides to think about and examine the issue. And when enough people do this, we as human communities examine the issue quite thoroughly, and consensus can emerge. And all without anyone having to roll over and say uncle. Finally, one last bit of advice : arguments don’t matter, so don’t throw away a relationship over one. Friends are more important than intellectual brownie points, trust me. Peace y’all.

me, on youtube, just now