Patriarchy hates homosexuality and punishes it severely. But have you ever wondered why it hates it so much? Why it feels that homosexuality must be given the biggest disincentives possible? What are they so afraid of? What fuels their persistent and clearly unsupported belief that homosexuality is spreading and that any exposure to it will lead people down the wrong path?
Why are they so afraid that something they say is the most disgusting and awful thing ever will start catching on?
Because patriarchy breeds homosexuality. And deep down, it knows this. In fact, in a sense, patriarchy itself is very gay, and I think that male homosexuality has played a part in the history of patriarchy.
The most obvious way that patriarchy breeds homosexuality is via sexual segregation. Anyone who has heard about what goes on in prisons knows that sexual segregation leads to opportunistic homosexuality.
Now imagine that, but pervasive throughout the lives of young males. From birth till college, they are kept apart from women by the established patriarchs who don’t want better-looking youthful men full of hormones poaching “their” women.
So all that is around when they are going through puberty, and more importantly sexual imprinting, is other males. Young, old, equal, superior, fulfilling every role in a functioning society (including “women’s work”), nothing but XY chromosomes as far as the eye can see.
In this world, females are alien, exotic creatures, rarely see up close and clad in unassailable virtue and protected (and enslaved) by a system that treats them as priceless possessions. In such a system, women seem not just unattainable but mysterious and thus powerful. The patriarchal system proclaims the rightness of hetrosexuality, but removes the opportunity.
In such a system, a high percentage of males are not just going to have sex with one another (that’s virtually guaranteed), they are going to sexually imprint on one another, and hence homosexuality is inculcated.
This happens because one of the most important components of our sexual imperative is the seeking of the most stimulating available target for one’s sexual attraction. Emphasis on availability. That’s why your dog humps your leg, and why you hear of the occasional bull moose “wooing” some farmer’s cow. It might not be the ideal sexual target, but it is the best of what is available, and lust can always overcome reluctance if it is left to build for long enough.
And when the most stimulating object around is another male….
In addition, patriarchal culture constantly reinforces the value of men and the unimportance of women, and treats manly virtues paramount and female virtues to be strictly for girls. It should then come as no surprise, then, that when it comes time to choose a partner, some of these males (especially the ones of low status) seek a partner with those same male virtues.
Once patriarchy goes past a certain point of no return, when the sexual segregation is nearly total and women are forbidden to show any female characteristics in public at all (again, because of the jealousy of old established patriarchs), the homosexuality of the culture becomes literal and things will inevitably slide towards male homosexuality.
That is what they are so afraid of and why they have to make a show of punishing homosexuality as harshly as they can in order to show to others and themselves that no matter how tempting it might be, homosexuality is not worth it.
Otherwise, why bother punishing it? We don’t dole out harsh punishments for doing things nobody actually wants to do. Nobody ever got burned at the stake or stoned to death for pounding a nail into their eyeball or setting their hair on fire. To harshly condemn and punish something, and talk about how easily it could spread, you have to believe that this thing is something everyone wants to do really badly and only the threat of the severest punishment and a culture where every man must continually assert and defend their heterosexuality can keep everybody from doing it.
Another way in which patriarchal culture breeds homosexuality is by encouraging men to stay at a prepubescent level of sexual development. The idea that all that women are good for is cooking, cleaning, and babies matches completely with how a little boy sees the opposite sex. A little boy literally cannot imagine what else women are for. And neither can patriarchy.
This sexual infantilization turns all women into “mommies”, and under that paradigm women can only be good mommies or bad mommies. Good mommies treat their men like spoiled babies, giving them whatever they want whenever they want, including sex. Bad mommies fail this very narrow and powerless role.
This is how the Greek version of patriarchy, which progressed to the point of women not even being allowed to leave the house, quickly became the era of “women for babies, men for fun”. Heterosexuality was nonexistent and you only had sex with women because you wanted to have lots of children (that she had to raise, of course) in order to impress other men.
Also, because patriarchy separates the sexes so thoroughly, it breeds gynephobia. What is mysterious is often frightening, and so men in a patriarchal society often fear women. And how do they express that fear?
Why, by punishing them and controlling them, of course. Misogyny is always an expression of the fear of women. Only someone who sees women as dangerous as an enraged bear will think that women have to be kept in chains.
And who is going to lead this fight against the power of women? The ones who fear women the most, the ones who don’t just see them as a threat but as competition for the attention of other males. Ones who understand that, from their point of view, women ruin everything because most men are primarily heterosexual and therefore no man can be a superior sexual target to any women as the women will always be more stimulating.
I am talking, of course, about gay men.
I will talk to you nice people again tomorrow.