Alone Inside – a personal view

About an hour ago I listened to this episode of the CBC show …..Ideas, entitled Alone Inside.

It is about solitary confinement, its history, its effects on people, and whether or not it’s torture. I highly recommend listening to it, as it is deeply fascinating stuff, but it’s not required for the reading of this commentary.

The original idea of solitary confinement, back when the term “penitentiary” literally meant “a place for people to be penitent”, was that being given some time completely alone would be good for the soul of the sinner. It would give them time without distractions or interactions in which to think about their crimes and make some peace with their conscience and their God.

So kind of like an amped up version of being sent to bed without supper so you can think about what you’ve done.

The key element is that is was not, repeat, not meant as a punishment. The people who brought the penitentiary system into being were not big on punishment. In face, their desire was for a more humane way of dealing with criminals than the previous barbaric methods like the stocks or the lash.

So solitary confinement, like so many things, began with nothing but the most sterling of intentions. But the truth is, isolation is extremely bad for people, as is an unchanging and uniform environment, as is a long term lack of mental and sensory stimulation, and solitary confinement involves all three.

I would argue that we might have been better off with the lash. At least that can heal.

These facts established, I have a few things I would like to say on the subject, and I will begin with the political/ethical.

As a humanist, I am heartened by this upswell of concern about solitary confinement. It certainly seems like people are increasingly willing to consider carrying the cause of greater compassion forward on this issue. It is mostly liberal intellectuals that are talking about it now, but that’s how all populist appeals for greater mercy begin.

Personally, I would eliminate it. Certainly, it should only be used as a cooling-off measure. Something intended just to give a prisoner time to calm down before rejoining the prisoner population.

But we cannot ever eliminate it entirely, because what the people on the podcast failed to mention was that there will always been a small number of mad dog prisoners who will be extremely dangerous to everyone they come in contact with and for them, cutting off all their contact with others is the only solution.

That, however, only needs to be physical isolation. Allowing those prisoners some other form of non-physical contact with others might be feasible. Some kind of open intercom system, perhaps, or a very limited Internet connection that only connects to a set of chat rooms for all the inmates.

All this would also be contingent on good behaviour, because there is no point in giving Mad Dog McGraw another laptop if he’s only going to tear it apart with his teeth again. But even with the most violent prisoners, there should be someone whose job it is to come talk with them for an hour a day (from outside the cell, of course).

Anyone who can’t handle even that probably should be in a psychiatric facility instead of prison.

So much for the philosophical angle, on to the personal.

I have a lot of first hand experience with isolation. I have been isolated, to various degrees, for most of my life. I went for long periods with no friends and scant attention from my parents. In a house with six people living in it, I was alone most of the time. I would spend my days going to and from school alone, staying in my room reading (or later, on the computer playing video games) alone. or watching TV alone.

And of course, becoming depressed added psychological isolation to the mix. In a very real way, I feel alone even when I am with my friends, because the psychological scar tissue I bear separates me from others.

There could be a world of love and acceptance right outside my door, but it still wouldn’t get in. I would never feel it. I am just too numb inside.

And as I was listening to the show, I couldn’t help but look around this bedroom of mine, the room with unlocked doors which is nevertheless a sort of jail cell for me in which I spent most of my waking hours. My mental illness is the real prison, and there are a lot of similarities between depression and incarceration.

In both cases, you are isolated from society and forced to spend all your time just fighting boredom. It limits you, but it also protects you from having to deal with the real world, adult responsibilities, and the existential terror of freedom.

And if you think that my cell at least doesn’t have anyone who wants to shiv me, you should sit down for a nice lunch with my inner demons some day, and see what you think then.

Nevertheless, I think solitary confinement would kill me. I am barely keeping my fudge with the level of isolation I experience now, and I have the whole Internet to talk to now. Without that, I would just plain leave reality.

Unless I could write. If I could write, I could survive. Even if it was just longhand on paper, I would be able to keep it together if I could just write, and maybe send things to publishers now and then.

The episode resonates with me so much that when I first saw the title, Alone Inside, I just assumed it would be about depression. That’s where my mind instantly went.

Luckily, with my new resolve to eliminate pressure, plans, self-judgment, and all that crap, I have a path before me that leads out of this dank and dingy cell of mine.

I am a pretty amazing dude.

And I deserve better than this.

The mystery of Room 237

A couple years ago, I heard about this documentary called Room 237. It was supposed to be a documentary where people discussed the work of Stanley Kubrick in general and The Shining in particular.

I thought that sounded great. I love media analysis of all kinds and I thought it would be really cool to hear intelligent, learned types talk about an amazing movie adapted from my second-favorite Stephen King novel. (Carrie comes first for sentimental reasons.) And like I have said, I have an insatiable appetite for intelligent discussion.

So I went into watching Room 237 with my roommate Julian today with eyes wide open (not wide shut) expecting the sort of discourse I get from the podcast community.

But I should have known better. I should have remembered why I knew I could never be an English major. I should have known that Kubrick has the power to make otherwise intelligent and intelligible people lose their freaking minds.

I really should have seen it coming.

Because Room 237 is an awful, awful movie. Instead of cogent and focused discussion of an undisputed cinematic masterpiece created by one of the most brilliant minds ever to be turned to the making of film, I got four or five pretentious windbags abandoning all common sense and contact with reality to vanish up their own novels as they irresponsibly theorized with the brakes off.

One person thought the whole movie was an allegory for the slaughter of Native Americans by European whites because of that whole Indian burial ground thing (I wonder what they thought of Poltergeist?). And you know, there are a lot of pictures of Indians scattered around the Overlook Hotel. The blood? Why, the angry blood of the slaughtered Indians! And it comes in from the sides in front of a closed elevator door to represent how we have tried to shut out the knowledge that white Europeans did terrible things to the noble Red Man.

I swear, I’m not making this up. I’m not capable.

Another thought it was an allegory all right, but for the Nazi extermination of the Jews. The fact that the guy was a professional historian who specialized in Nazi history was not the disqualifying factor you might think it would be, because it takes a sense of irony to say “But you know, I have seen so much Nazi stuff that I see Nazis everywhere now” and we have clearly left the land of irony far, far behind.

His proof? There are a lot of pictures of Nazis lying around the Overlook. Plus, there is one dissolve where the kid’s image is replaced by a suitcase.

And we all know how much the Nazis loved sticking children in luggage, right?

Another one actually trotted out that leaky old canard about how the movie was really Kubrick’s way of working out the issues he had with having been the person who faked the Apollo 11 moon landing for Kennedy.

Because, you see, the kid is wearing an Apollo 11 shirt. A clear confession!

It was a potent lesson in just how much I hate that kind of bloviating horse apples. That is why I could never be an English major because 99 percent of literary analysis is just like that. People reading far too much meaning into simple things and ascribing godlike powers of cultural encoding to writers who, no matter how brilliant they may be (and Kubrick had an IQ of 200) are just people trying to tell a story.

It occurs to me that the only difference between literary theory and conspiracy theory is that nobody ever got tenure by writing about the New World Order and the Bohemian Grove.

At least, nobody working at a really good school.

It also occurs to me that Kubrick must be to film majors what James Joyce is to literature majors : a major figure of enormous cultural stature considered to be brilliant and inscrutable to any mere mortal (but my theory proves I understand him! Tenure, please!) that is therefore the perfect platform for the wildest of speculation because there is absolutely no way to objectively determine which theory is true.

After all, who can tell you that Picasso’s Guernica is not actually a complex ideogram proving Picasso was sexually abused by a milkmaid when he was three and a half years old?

Certainly not your fellow theorists, who deep down know that they dare not introduce reality to their cloistered milieu lest their own bullshit face sensible scrutiny.

And certainly not the average citizen, who does not understand what the theorists are saying but dares not say so for fear of looking stupid in front of people who seem so much smarter than them.

Even other intellectuals can be intimidated by stepping into the foreign fields of someone else’s specialty.

So who does that leave to shout out that Emperor not only has no clothes but a hilariously tiny cock?

Me. It leaves me. Hey, check out the “royal scepter”!

See, I know that writers are not gods. (Not even me.) There is a hard limit to how much any human being can consciously encode into a work of fiction, and we need to remember that if we are to stay out of La La Land.

I remember when I first presented my play What’s On to the head of the UPEI theater society, an English prof. He read the whole thing then said “It seems to be about freedom. ”

And I said “Does it? How interesting. ” I mean, what do I know. I only wrote the damned thing.

In many ways, this kind of analysis is like the parable of the Four Blind Men And The Elephant. In it, four blind men encounter an elephant for the first time in their lives, and try to figure out what it is.

One gets hold of the trunk, and declares it to be a snake.

Another gets hold of the tail, and declares it to be a rope.

Another gets hold of a leg, and declares it to be a tree.

And the last one feels the elephant’s sides, and declares that they have encountered a wall.

But it’s not a snake, a rope, a tree, or a wall.

IT’S A FREAKING ELEPHANT. They all have drawn their conclusions from a small part of a much larger (and presumably extremely patient) animal, and they all think they have found the truth.

And the thing is, they have accurate data, more or less. Nobody can tell them that what they have observed is not there. And if the data is accurate, then the theory must be right. Right?

Wrong. All these theories have a grain of truth to them, but the conclusions drawn are completely and utterly wrong. None of them actually know what they have encountered. But they all THINK they do.

And so it is with this kind of reckless speculation. The Native American theory seems true because, well, look at all those pictures of Indians. The Nazi theory seems true because hey, that kid dissolved into a suitcase. That definitely happened! Here, I can show you the frame…

And the moon hoax theory is true because just look at the rocket on that kid’s shirt!

But none of them are true. The truth (or at least, my own theory of it) is that the movie, like the book, is about the deepest blackest darkness within the heart of Man, and by Man I mean male human beings. (Ladies have their own darkness, but Stephen King wasn’t writing about them. )

And therefore the movie IS about Nazis. It’s also about every other genocide, as well as senseless war, domestic abuse, bar fights, the sexual exploitation of children, and every other form of barbarity and inhumanity men have perpetrated.

But that’s all it is. The movie is not exclusively about Nazis, Indians, the moon landing, or gay aliens.

It’s a freaking elephant.

A woman like her

There’s a word for women like this one.

And that word is “holy”.

That might sound like an odd word coming from an atheist like me. I don’t believe in God, or even gods, so how can I declare something to be holy?

But that would be missing the point. I am not a theist but I have a very strong spiritual belief in humanism and the humanist endeavor, and all that Jesus, as represented in the Bible, was actually talking about.

I just don’t need to believe someone was the Son of God to be onto something.

And so by my deeply spiritual humanism, Mama Hill is a holy woman. She doesn’t just give love, she lives love. Every day and in every way, she embodies my ideal of holiness by being someone who spends every waking moment filling the world with as much love as she possibly can, and has truly given herself over to the holiest of pleasures, the pleasure that comes from loving and helping others.

This is not just the most moral of pleasures, but the purest, strongest, and highest pleasure there is. I envy her and her spiritual strength and dedication. She is my spiritual ideal. If I had to describe my desired destination in my spiritual journey through life, I would just say “Mama Hill”.

She lives in a state of grace. I can only imagine what joy and serenity there must be in that. She has found the joy of abandoning self not out of self-denigration or self-denial, but simply because it was getting in the way of her true happiness.

And she is clearly someone who does not belief the corrosive and destructive lie that you can “spoil” a child by loving them too much. She does not believe in withholding love for any reason. It is never justified. Children must know that they will always be loved, no matter what, and without limit.

That does not mean letting kids do whatever the hell they want. Discipline is part of love, and if discipline is pursued with love, not anger, then it cannot go wrong.

Children might not enjoy the act of discipline. They will quite likely try to avoid the consequences of their actions. They might even curse your name and tell you that you are the worst parent in the world.

But they will be far, far happier in a world with limits, structure, and authority. They will feel secure and calm in a world where there is someone to watch over them and warn them away from harm. The world of a child is frightening and strange. They understand so little of the world they live in.

Thus, they are greatly comforted by the thought of not having to face the great unknown alone.

Her life is pretty much my ideal life, although I would be collecting and helping broken people, misfits and losers and marginalized minorities and such, rather than children of broken homes.

Other than that, though, that is how I would like to live my life. Provide a safe haven for those people who, for whatever reason and by whatever means, did not turn out right and hence are not healthy or whole enough to go out there and cope with the world like a normal person could.

I would be very fulfilled if I could provide those people a place where they can feel loved, valued, and accepted. No religion required, just a dedication to being there for people when and how they need you.

In a sense, it seems like religion is a long and complicated detour on the road to true humanism. Part of me wishes people would just skip the Jesus worship and concentrate on what He actually said, and spare themselves a lot of confusions and angst caused by getting it all tied up with superstition, priests, and the Old Testament.

But I suppose that people have to find their own path to spiritual enlightenment, and my path is not the only one by far. I recognize the symbol value of the idea of God. Apart from its value in keeping as adults also feeling like we are not alone and there is someone out there looking over them, God (or Jesus) represents the highest human ideals and gives people something to strive towards.

It just saddens me to see people who profess a love of Christ but endorse a worldview diametrically opposed to everything the Biblical Jesus taught.

I mean, what’s a messiah to do? How thorough and precise does a holy teacher have to be in order to make it crystal clear what you are talking about and what sorts of things will never, ever, ever be allowed.

Like I say in this comic strip I did ages ago…

It's not what religion causes. It's what it fails to stop.

It’s not what religion causes. It’s what it fails to stop.

… I would be one paranoid Messiah. Given how hard Jesus tried to get His message across, only to have it pretty much completely ignored, in part or in whole, by absolutely everybody who claims to believe in Him, I really do wonder how the hell you can successfully get the whole humanist ideal across to people.

It’s not complicated. Love one another. Be good to one another. Look out for one another. Pick each other up when you fall. Love your fellow humans precisely because of your shared humanity.

I keep picturing either this vast and incomprehensible legalistic document that covers every possible excuse someone might have for doing or being evil, or maybe some vast interactive flowchart type app that does more or less the same thing but in a more user-friendly mode.

But of course, that won’t work either, because no matter how thorough you are, the majority of people will find it to be too complicated and/or too much work to learn and use such a cumbersome belief system, and you might as well have just made a million Happy Face buttons instead.

Maybe Mama Hill knows.

See, I remember where I started!

The corrupting influence of wealth

Tonight, I am actually going to do a blog entry on an actual subject! Amazing.

The subject is this video :

Watch the whole thing, it’s really quite astounding how clear the science is on this subject.

And what subject is that? This one.

I swear, I made the video below before I ever saw the one above.

But the thesis remains the same. Wealth is power. Power corrupts. When people gain wealth they lose morals. They become worse people on any meaningful scale. They no longer care about the consequences of their actions on others.

Wealth turns people evil. It cannot be denied.

Now proving scientifically that people in expensive cars drive like total assholes is merely an exercise in proving what everybody already knows. I am sure everybody has had an opportunity to observe this effect for themselves, either on the road as a fellow driver or, as in my case, as a pedestrian keen on crossing the road without getting run over.

I can’t say for sure that every car that has ever nearly clipped me when I was crossing at a crosswalk was expensive (hard to take note of such things when you’re lunging for a lamp-post to climb) but I can definitely say that almost every time I see someone parked like they got paid by the number of parking spaces they took up, it’s been an expensive car.

Usually a BMW. Well, don’t you know, all truly great people love BMWs.

After all, they were Hitler’s fave.

And well, the fact that rich people are willing to literally take candy from children is no surprise to me, because their wealth makes them act like greedy little children themselves. Everything is always for me and I have the right to do whatever I want and anyone who says different is MEAN.

Myself, diabetes or no, if I had been told not to take any of the candy because it’s meant for children, I would not have taken any damned candy. And it’s not that I would not have wanted to take some. Those look like one of my favorite kinds of mint, and I love mint.

And then there’s lying about your dice rolls for a chance to win $50. No surprise, the top earners cheated four times as much as the people on the bottom. The people on the top live in fantasy worlds where everything around them is theirs and all the people they interact with are employees and everything is about what the wealthy person wants.

This creates an oral-retentive personality, just like we all have when we are infants and our parents cater to our every need and all we need to do to solve any problem is cry. The world revolves around us and our needs and everyone else is evaluated solely on their usefulness.

This is a pre-ethical state of mind, almost purely solipsistic (Mommy might also be a person…. maybe… when she’s a good mommy), and the concepts of self-restraint, empathy, and patience are completely foreign to it. If it is unhappy for even a second, it demands immediate gratification.

Doesn’t that sound like how rich people act? Yelling at servants for being ten seconds late with their coffee, brimming with righteous rage at the thought of being asked to share or wait their turn, absolutely convinced that the world is for them and everyone else is just along for the ride.

But the real kicker in the video for me is the Monopoly game. There can be no clearer clinical result than that. People who only got what they got in terms of fake wealth because they won a coin toss nevertheless acted exactly as if they were winning due to some inherit merit of their own.

This makes it clear that it is not just that evil people are better at getting money. The money actually makes people worse.

Now why is this? Like I said in my video, I think it has to do with the status instincts we human beings have as members of a hierarchical species.

These instincts are, for most of us, most of the time, dulled by modern middle class society. When everyone you deal with is in roughly the same income bracket as you, the differences do not cause strong differences in behaviour.

A middle class mother might grumble about the family next door having nicer furniture, but odds are, in a social gathering, they would act more or less the same.

It takes large degrees of difference in status to make these instincts very clear. The classic “workers versus management” divide is a perfect example. Why does management treat the workers so poorly? Because they no longer identify with them but with their new peer group, other managers, and view anyone below them as merely means to their own ends.

Just like a spoiled baby.

In this, ironically, we are exhibiting more primitive behaviour than the most primitive hunter-gatherer societies. Humans, in the state of nature, band together, are bonded by shared dangers, and form a tight knit but very shallow hierarchy where all the mean are equal as hunters and all the women are equal as gatherers. There is only one level above them, and that consists of the chieftain, who provides the necessary executive function, and possibly a shaman, who deals with spiritual matters.

However, if we go back further to our primate ancestors like the chimpanzee, because the executive function is relatively unimportant and complex coordinated action is not necessary, the leader tend to be a bully and a tyrant who takes all the best things for himself and then doles them out to his cronies in order to maintain his power structure.

Sounds very familiar, doesn’t it? It’s exactly how corrupt power always acts. Grab power, take everything you want, reward your friends, and brutally dominate everyone else while also resenting the fact that you have to give those beneath you anything at all.

Why, that’s almost like the most evil thing in the world : sharing. To the oral retentive mind, all sharing means is “I have less now!”. And it doesn’t matter if what they have, they got because someone else shared with them.

Belief in reciprocity require belief in the validity of others, after all.

So it’s nice to see that my theories are backed up by science.

I should write a book called “The Pathology Of Wealth”.

HOLY CRAP, VIDEO!

By some weird cosmic convergence, I have come across a metric whack of good videos today and so tonight’s blog entry will be all about the vids!

Including my own, natch.

In fact, let’s do that one first. Presenting : Day 6!

First off, let me explain the blue sky image.

The reason the video portion is missing is that, midway through the first edit of today’s raw footage, I discovered that around three minutes in, the video and audio go way out of sync.

I just could not imagine starting the whole thing over again, so I said “Screw it, today we are going audio only. ” Nobody will miss seeing my ugly mug anyhow.

I really want to get my teeth fixed. I’ve got a fucking Dick Cheney underbite. Ick. Still, if anyone needs an actor to play an inbred hick from a place without dental care, I am totally your guy.

Now about the subject matter : that documentary really irritated me, so I had to reply. I realize today’s vid is a bit of a mess, and self-indulgent to boot, but I promise to shape up for the next one.

And test the video capture thoroughly before committing my precious thoughts to it!

Next up, an amusing short comedic film called To Be Frank.

I discovered this video because someone I know online gave me the link. They had done the sound design for the film, getting all those foley effects off the Net and putting them in place, and I think they did a great job. I would not have the patience for that kind of hunt.

Makes sense, though, that in this digital age, the original foley artist with his buckets of gravel and train whistles would be falling by the wayside. It’s sad to see such a fascinating and demanding art fade away, but who in the low budget world can afford that kind of thing?

About the flick : I would go insane with a boss like that. The only possible relief would be that he probably would be too much of a flake to hold you accountable for your failure to perform miracles.

If not, it would be reform him, quit the job in a huff, or cold blooded murder, because seriously, that guy would drive Gandhi nuts.

Oh, and I saw Frank’s solution two heartbeats before it was revealed.

You can’t fire someone for refusing to forge your name, can you?

Next up, some very fun low-rent comedy from some funny fey people.

I know, not exactly slick, but I love their energy and enthusiasm. They are clearly having fun making the video and that kind of fun is contagious.

And I am drawing great inspiration from their example too. Right now, I only have a webcam, so pretty much everything has to be shot within like a yard of my computer, but that kind of rapid-fire list-based comedy works really well in that format and I am sure I have a few comedy lists I wrote ages ago lying around here somewhere, I swear.

I might not have a video camera (that connects to the computer) and a green screen yet, but that does not have to limit my ambitions too much.

After all, there’s a thing called talent. I am a very funny fellow with a lot of comedy knowledge and an amazing sense of humour.

I just have to write myself some suitable material. Something that I can do with just my giant head and a webcam and still make it sparkle and shine.

I will cogitate about this notion.

And less damned philosophy!

And speaking of highly effective low budget comedy, check this out :

It’s a response to the groundswell of racist sewage unleashed in the YouTube comments thread (an arena known for having the worst human beings in the world) of this harmless and adorable ad.

OK, the original is a little saccharine and cutesy, but apparently, all a racist sees in that ad is that the parents are not of the same race, and that’s MISCEGENATION HORRIBLE BLACK OBAMA WARRRRGARBL.

Hell, the ad never even says that this fellow on the couch is her Dad. He could be a friend of the family for all we know.

I bet that if the man was white and the woman was black, you wouldn’t hear a peep from them, tho.

I hope the little girl in the original ad doesn’t find out about all this until she’s older.

Anyhow, there are a lot of “response” videos out there but none of them have the marvelous sting in their tail that the one I’ve lined does.

I can totally imagine that one nailing some people who are not racist, but are not so sure about this whole gay marriage thing yet. Gotcha!

Finally… speaking of awesome black people (sorta kinda), check out this educator.

Un. Fucking. BELIEVABLE. This lady is a saint of education. She knows what it is all about. The whole video just filled me with a powerful sense of the true nature and power of education, and renewed my sense of just what an important job teaching is, and how tragic it is that we treat it so lightly sometimes.

I admit, I am biased. My mother’s a teacher, and in my opinion, an awesome one. She certainly taught me a lot when I was a wee sprog and she had not gone back to work yet.

Plus, because I was such a shy and isolated kid, I became a lot more emotionally dependent on my teachers than your average kid, a lot more than they could handle most of the time, to be honest.

So the subject of good teaching and good teachers is kind of dear to my heart.

And as for the horrible woman who said “They don’t pay me to like them”, Rita’s answer was incomplete. Kids won’t learn from someone they don’t like… and they won’t like you unless you like them!

Or, as Rita points out, at least learn to fake it convincingly.

Well, that’s the show for today. Seeya tomorrow with SCIENCE!

The truth about liberalism

Is that it works. Period.

The historical record of the last 30 years proves it. When liberals are in charge, things get better. When conservatives rule, things get worse.

And we are not just talking better for the poor or the immigrants or the gays. We are talking better for the very things which conservatives consider to be their own.

Under liberals, deficits shrink. The economy grows. Business (big and small) thrives. Wall Street prosper. The Dow Jones breaks all previous records. Ask any conservative what they care about most in terms of money, and you will find that liberals are better at actually delivering it.

Because liberalism works. Conservatism doesn’t. It’s just that simple.

Conservatives cling to the notion that they are somehow the guardians of real civilization against the forces of anarchy, but the truth is that modern society is based on liberal values and hence does best under a leadership in line with said values.

The entirety of modern history has been written by liberals and radicals. Everything we think of as progress, whether that progress is economic, social, or technological, has come from some liberal fighting off the forces of reactionary conservatism that mindless protect the status quo not because they actually think it is the best we can do, but because they simply fear change. They fear the unknown.

And that is the opposite of liberalism.

Modernity has liberalism in its DNA at a fundamental level. Liberal values like education, science, and innovation are backbones of the economy. The causes of tolerance, understanding, and acceptance have done nothing but advance since the modern era began.

The conservatives never, ever, ever win. Think about that. They always lose. In the end, they stop absolutely nothing. Change happens, the ground shifts beneath their feet, and they are dragged by their heels into the future by the unstoppable march of human progress.

This does not happen automatically, of course. It happens because most people do not think of themselves as mean or irrational people and hence the kinder and more rational options inevitably win out. And that, in turn, only happens because the liberals who are the forerunners of all progress work tirelessly to refine and spread their message.

The conservatives can scream and shout and stomp their feet and hold their breath until they turn blue all they want just like the spoiled and petty children they really are, but the adults of liberalism will always win out over time.

And the progress made by those liberals will be taken as a given by the next generation of conservatives, who will fight some new and equally senseless battle to keep the next wave of positive change from happening without even acknowledging how much they owe to the liberals of the past.

We are seeing one of those waves of change happening right now. Gay marriage is coming to state after state and country after country. Tolerance of the GLBT community is at an all time high and just keeps rising. The oppression of any harmless minority is against the fundamental principles of justice and tolerance that are the very foundations of modern society, not just in word but in practice.

Everyone in modern society benefits from the sweat and toil of liberals of the past. The forty hour work week, tolerance of religious and racial differences, the technology that liberal scientific innovation has brought to the world and saved billions of lives and untold human suffering… we are all swimming in waters purified by liberalism, and that process will continue far into the future.

The folly of conservatism, then, is the inability to see how things actually work because their tiny minds, shriveled souls, and cold hard hearts cannot handle the idea that being nice actually makes things better for everyone. Even them.

Their regressive minds have devolved into those of selfish children who scream NO at the slightest provocation and who can’t imagine there being any good reason why anyone else should ever tell them they can’t do what they want to do and can’t have everything they want to have.

And when they rail against change, it is with the same unreasonable and unreasonable stubborn determination of a child throwing a temper tantrum because the family is going to move to a bigger, better house, or because they were made to go to the dentist when they didn’t want to do it.

It doesn’t matter what is right or wrong. They are frankly incapable of making that determination. The variables are too complex for their weakened state of reason. All that matters is what is familiar and comforting instead of new and frightening.

It is a purely emotional reaction, which is why it cannot be reasoned with. Things which are not the product of reason cannot be changed by reason.

A conservative is a fundamentally unreasonable person.

Luckily for human freedom and progress, they are also a minority, and a shrinking one at that. As the world urbanizes, the rural base which provides the bulk of conservatism’s able-bodied working supporters is dwindling, leaving only the old people who have lost not just their mental but their moral faculties.

Hopefully, this means that human progress will proceed just a little more smoothly in the future, without the millstone of cranky conservatives needlessly delaying popular change.

And who knows. Maybe we do need conservatives around in order to keep things from changing too fast and too soon. As I age I find that increasingly hard to see, but I can’t eliminate the possibility.

But this modern world of ours is a liberal world. It was founded by liberals, it was built by liberals, and it works best under liberal leadership.

The Europeans understand this. They have grasped that caring, considerate, tolerant societies thrive on all levels, not just the ethical.

But we here in North America seem to have missed that particular update.

Reagrdless, liberalism will always triumph because it is the right thing to do and the most effective way to satisfy even our most selfish and greedy desires.

Because it just. Plain. WORKS.

Two videos and something you will not believe exists

Had a very productive session with the therapist today.

We refocused on anger (my least favorite and hence most important thing to talk about) then ended up talking about a related issue, which is arrogance and intelligence.

I won’t go into it in great detail yet because I am still processing it and I have links to share, but the gist of it was that one of the biggest blocks to my becoming a more integrated person is my inability to really deal with just how intelligent I am.

More on that later. Now, for some cool links from today’s web wanderings!

First off, the sweetest and most awesome thing you will see today.

A dear sweet old granny wrote a song about her granddaughter’s upcoming lesbian wedding, and GLBT marriage in general, and it will make you feel all full of sunshine and happiness.

Isn’t she just adorable? I totally want to give her a big hug. She also manages to sum up the gay marriage date with remarkable clarity and simplicity. And to think, she did it all out of love!

When sweet little old grannies are on the side of gay marriage because they correctly understand that it is about love and family, you just know the opponents of gay marriage are doomed.

Not that we need any more evidence. Senior citizens are the population most rapidly switching sides to the pro gay marriage position, presumably because they all have children and grandchildren who have come out of the closet and want to get married, and love of your children and their children is far, far stronger than any stupid and hateful political position.

And all over the world, country after country, and state after state, are joining the modern world and embracing gay marriage with absolutely no ill effects. That slender thread of plausibility to the notion that gay marriage might do some vague sort of harm has been snapped.

And now the opponents just look petty and mean, which is just and proper, because that is actually all that they have ever been.

Next up, a lady with some damn good ideas stated well.

I love this video because the speaker does such an excellent job of making the clear, nuts and bolts, logical case for liberal values like investing in early childhood care because it actually save the system money in the long run.

And I completely agree with her. I think there should be a better system for making sure that kids are looked after from the day they are born than what we have now, where right when childcare is at its most expensive, parents have the financial drain of having to pay for childcare, either via a babysitter or some kind of child care center.

Either that, or have an even bigger financial drain from having one parent quit work.

We need to face the fact that raising a child from infancy to school age is an incredibly demanding job, and yet the truth is that the two parent income family is here to stay,

The only way to reasonably resolve this problem, in my opinion, is government subsidized child care. I would be open to the notion of it working on a voucher style system, with the rider that if you take government vouchers, you are not allowed to charge any more than that.

I would also, however, be open to it being completely government run, like the school system.

And yes, I do have some doubts about creating a system where kids are raised by the State even more than they are now.

But as long as the little ones go home to their parents every night and on the weekends, I don’t see this as a big problem.

After all, with both parents working, they would not be seeing their parents anyhow. It would be a babysitter or some for-profit childcare center either way.

The main change would be the freeing of young parents from financial strain.

Finally, the thing you will not believe exists.

I have two words for you people : EDIBLE. ANUS.

I dare you to click on this link (NSFW, technically)!

Yes, somewhere in this big old world, someone decided that what this big old world really needed was big old assholes made of chocolate.

I say it’s only “technically” NSFW, because while it is a reasonably reasonably facsimile of a butthole, it really does not look like much.

If you saw it out of context, it’s at best a fifty-fifty chance that you would even recognize it as what is was. You might just think it was an interestingly textural bit of abstract art.

Still, hats off to this company for making something so breathtakingly fucked up. I have no idea what the thought process that went into creating this product was, but I bet it was disgusting.

And here’s the kicker : they have been in business since 2004. That means that this business model is successful and there is a real market for chocolate bungholes out there.

I wonder how they advertise. Hell, I wonder where they advertise. Brown Eye Aficianado Magazine? Better Homes And Stinkeyes? Bed, Buttholes, and Beyond”

Or is this the sort of thing that spreads entirely by… word of mouth?

Maybe it all started with a very unusual special order. And the person who ordered it loved it so much that he told all his anally fixated friends about it and suddenly the chocolatiers in question had a very unusual but lucrative business on their hands.

I can only assume that the largest portion of their custom comes from people looking for that really special gag gift to give their otherwise unflappable target.

It would also make for a really classy way to tell them you think they are an asshole.

And the card read “Saw this and immediately thought of you, dear! XOXOXO!”

I suppose it could also work as a “dare you to eat it” Fear Factor type challenge.

Either way… you have all learned something today.

That the world is full of assholes… but some of them are made of chocolate!

Remember the 80’s?

Tonight’s entry is all about this fun list: 50 Things Only 80’s Kids Understand.

Being mostly an eighties kid (ages 7 to 17, and it’s not like I remember anything from the first two years), I enjoyed perusing this little list.

Some of things I remembered fondly, other things I remembered but didn’t really care about, and some of the things I flat out do no recall at all.

Well, the culture is rarely evenly distributed and not everybody gets every update.

I don’t think Muppet Babies is the greatest cartoon of all, although looking back, it was high quality kiddie entertainment. I watched it, but only because it was the Muppets. The Muppet Show was a huge part of my childhood (70’s kid!)and I was Muppet deprived.

But looking back, it had a great deal of warmth and imagination, and had the very comforting message that you can go anywhere with your imagination, but if things get too scary, you can stop and instantly be back at home, safe and sound.

If you had asked me at the time what the greatest cartoon of all time was, I would have said “Spider-Man and His Amazing Friends” without hesitation. It’s kind of hard to watch as an adult, but when I was a kid and that show was on, the rest of the world just plain ceased to exist.

And unlike other children’s shows, it didn’t treat me like an idiot. That was a very big deal to me.

As for “Team Madonna” or “Team Cyndi”, I was never aware I had to choose, but if I had been asked at the time, I would have chosen Cyndi hands down. Madonna has done some great music and some extraordinary things both with her public persona and her business sense.

But I love Cyndi. She just seems like such an awesome person.

Looking over the list, I remember 24 of the fifty things. So, not quite a pass. For instance, I didn’t even know what “pegged” jeans were until I saw the picture.

And I sure as hell don’t remember kids going to 50’s-themed parties. Honestly, I am pretty sure I would have thought that was totally lame.

I mean, it’s not like those were my Happy Days. But I guess it was kind of like the kids with their 80’s parties today. Somehow, they inherit our nostalgia for a while.

We had a bunch of Disney Book and Record sets, though I listened to them on the family stereo, not my own Fisher Price model. Between that and my Disney Encyclopedia (seriously), I was indoctrinated into the world of Disney quite early.

Maybe that is why I still consider myself a Disney fan even though they have behaved quite badly over the years, and why I still admire Uncle Walt and the empire he built on the feeling of magic, despite knowing some of the ugly truths about the man.

Disney has a place in my heart that nothing can replace. Ditto the Muppets.

Oh, and speaking of movies (kinda), I was definitely traumatized by one of those movies, namely The Dark Crystal. My Dad took me to see it. The whole movie was a trip and I was absolutely rapt throughout the whole thing.

But at the end, when (spoiler alert!) the Skeksis and the Mystics merge into one race of beings, I was absolutely blown away. Mind went PING. It was so unexpected and so, well, wrong to my young mind that it threw me for a lot of loops.

I mean, the Skeksis were horrible, horrible creatures. I still think of them as some of the most disgusting, vile, detestable, awful villains ever. I spent the whole movie waiting for them to get their righteous comeuppance. After all, that’s what always happens, right? The good guys beat the bad guys in the end.

And I wanted the Skeksis dead, dead, dead. Not just defeated. Dead. No mercy, no negotiation, no hesitation. Children can be quite bloodthirsty, and I wanted those fuckers dead.

So to have them actually merge with the good guys, the Mystics, was a total mindfuck and I spent a long time trying to come to grips with it. You can’t merge with them. They’re EVIL.

That movie really expanded my little mind. I had to reconcile myself to a more Taoist and less Zoroastrian view of the world. Balance, not victory.

What else… I sure as heck loved Scratch and Sniff stickers! I had a teacher who gave out stickers if you did well on a spelling test, and so the sticker collection in the back of my spelling notebook was not just fun, it was a trophy room.

And I had a lot of stickers, bright lad that I was. But you had to get a perfect score, 10/10, to get a Scratch and Sniff sticker, and that was rarer for me because I always made some little dumb mistake on one answer, like not forming my letters right or mishearing the word or the like.

So my Scratch and Sniff collection was my Gold Medal trophy room. And they were just plain fun, too. You got a little reward every time you scratched one.

I scratched my strawberry one so much that I basically shredded it.

A lot of the stuff on the list passed me by, though. I never played Oregon Trail, presumably because I was a Canadian kid. I never had a Trapper Keeper. I never wore British Knights or L. A. Gear sneakers.

And I watched Double Dare exactly once, and thought it was completely horrible. A total nightmare. So I mostly ignored it and all its clones.

But I definitely watched 3-2-1 Contact (but not for the Bloodhound Gang, they were lame) and Square One Television (yes, entirely for Mathnet, the rest of the show was laaaaaaame). I played in Pee-Wee’s Playhouse and watched a ton of the Cosby Show. I drank New York Seltzer (though I preferred Koala)and blew on my NES cartridges to get them to work. I remember the dark day of the Challenger explosion (I watched it happen on Canada AM, poor little me) and the phenomenally awesome day the Berlin Wall came down. I remember trying to figure out why everyone was watched the Baby Jessica rescue (not that it wasn’t important, by why her, why now? That kind of thing happens all the time) and being extremely impressed by the idea of Hands Across America while also being pretty sure they could not pull it off (and they didn’t, but it was still a wonderful and amazing thing to see). I collected Garbage Pail Kids cards and got told to Just Say No, or something a lot like it, so very, very, very many times.

I am serious. If you grew up in the 80’s and you didn’t know drugs were bad, mmmkay, then you lived under a very large rock.

And the only reason I don’t remember being traumatized by the death of Optimus Prime in the eighties was that I didn’t get to see the movie until the nineties, and it traumatized me then.

It still does, honestly.

And you know, looking over the list, while I was only directed involved with 24 of the things, I was aware of all but 7 of them at the time.

So maybe I got a passing grade on the 80’s after all.

Wet gay rich people in bondage!

Got a few things to share with y’all.

Like this : Guess what city in the USA has the highest number of same-sex couples raising kids?

New York City? San Francisco? Some gay commune in the Florida keys?

Nope, it’s Salt Lake City, Utah.

Turns out, when you raise people with family values, they raise families.

As counterintuitive as this factoid may be, it makes sense when you think about how same-sex couples raising kids tends to happen.

Usually, it is after one part of a heterosexual couple with kids comes out of the closet, they get a divorce, and the homosexual person ends up with custody. They meet someone new, and bam, Heather Has Two Mommies, or Daddies.

After all, lots of place still ban gay adoption, so that’s not going to happen much. And without that, gay men have no avenue to get children. (That’s why so many of us spoil our pets.) So that eliminates half the homosexual population right there.

That leaves lesbians, and while they have the option of opting for artificial insemination, I can’t see that happening nearly as much as the divorce scenario.

But why Salt Lake City? I think it’s precisely because it’s the sort of place most gay and lesbian people would flee for a bigger urban center which will be more understanding.

Young homosexual people will take that option in droves. But people old enough to have kids already are going to have lives, jobs, mortgages, friends, and most importantly, the kids themselves.

In other words, they have roots, and can’t just pack up and go. So they stay.

All the young, unattached homosexuals end up in the big cities, and the older ones stay where they are and make do, and so the percentage of gays and lesbians raising children goes up.

Next up, we have some rich people being extremely silly.

I mean, very very very silly. I particularly like the completely deadpan way Olivia Wilde said “I only got in because I’m an android from the future. ” That made me LOL big time.

And yeah, Sir Richard Bransen can’t act. It doesn’t matter. He is such a megastar of awesomeness that he can get away with not being a super good actor.

I mean, nobody gives a shit if Einstein could golf.

And obviously, talking about not going to the bathroom is just their way of mixing in potty humour with a very simple and important message about water. It is physically impossible to keep from going to the bathroom for very long.

Eventually, it just happens.

Of course, if you take the phrase “going to the bathroom” very literally, you certainly can avoid going to the bathroom. It’s easy to avoid entering a specific room. No problem.

You will still urinate and defecate, just… somewhere else.

The best spin I can put on that is rich people squatting behind bushes somewhere. Or wearing adult diapers. Or some kind of horrifying “Rudy will await your foundation” kind of scenario.

Next up, we have a very delightful and fun to read subreddit called Shit Cosmo Says.

On it, people lambaste and ridicule all the crazy garbage that lurks inside the pages of Cosmo magazine, especially the really mindlessly sexist and patronizing “advice” to women.

It was a real eye-opener for me as a kid when I suddenly realized that women’s magazines were incredibly sexist. They reinforced this idea that women are vapid, vacuous, silly creatures who only care about fashion and makeup and how best to please a man. Nowhere do they give women credit for having brains, ambition, concerns, and a life completely independent from men and what attracts and pleases them.

And for a few years, I just kept this thought to myself. I mean, surely I was wrong. I couldn’t imagine that millions of women bought these things and eagerly devoured the degradation like it was chocolate. There must be something I am not getting.

And then, I read an article that said that most women’s magazines are in fact written entirely by men, and suddenly it all made sense.

This was the patriarchy feeding women a version of themselves that was acceptable to the patriarchy. Men were very unlikely to write things that would challenge or confuse women. Instead, they get empty intellectual calories designed to make them feel they need to constantly be focused on their appearance or they will die alone.

I am sure that this is not consciously in the minds of the men writing and editing these rags, but it is still there. It is the same sort of thing that makes shows like The View and (forgive me!) Ellen make my skin crawl and my soul scream.

I am very lucky to have a mother who was quite liberated before it was even cool. My mother went to college to learn, not just to bide time and hunt husbands. She took courses where she was the only woman there and endured a lot of sexist abuse from the male professors thereof. She worked for all of my childhood, with an income equal to my father’s. She is an intelligent, inquisitive, deeply intellectual woman, and is therefore nothing like the women such magazines are aimed at.

And that is probably why they horrify and enrage me. My mother isn’t like that. Neither of my sisters are like that. Any time I have met any woman like that, I have found it profoundly irritating, to the point of taking me dangerously close to displaying my contempt to them.

And I am a very polite and sensitive fellow, so that is something I simply Do Not Do.

So my point (and I do have one) is that I hate women’s magazines and their ilk, and so I am happy to see a home for ruthlessly mocking their sexist horribleness.

Oh, and finally, the bondage. Normally I download pictures and rehost them, but this is furry art, and I feel like that would be stealing from the artist.

So I will just (Warning : NSFW, boobs)link to it.

Now, bondage does nothing for me and females do almost nothing for me, but I felt like sharing that image because I find her facial expression absolutely enchanting.

Sweet, naughty, inviting, shy… it’s all in there. She is just plain adorable. It makes me want to give her a big hug.

Although presumably, that’s not what she has in mind.

But she’s so darn cute!

The usual linkstorm

Well, enough navel probing over being 40 years old now. Back to reportage!

First, some video content. Some very special and extremely unique video that lets you know what it would look like to have something very bad happen to you while you stay safe at home.

Warning, the following video is disgusting, frightening, and hilarious.

See what I mean? This is as close as most of us want to get to the actual experience of being eaten by a bear. If Stephen Colbert saw this, he’s shit himself so hard, he’d deflate.

Yes, I said “most”. I know of people for whom that would be wildly pornographic.

But then, what isn’t porn to someone? I am sure some people beat off to the Antiques Road Show and climax just when he says how much the thing is worth.

I find I can only watch the video around a minute at a time. Any more than that and the disgust starts to overwhelm me and I find myself beginning to try to imagine what his breath must be like.

I mean, look at those teeth. Ewww. No such thing as a dentist for bears, I guess. On the other hand, his palate and uvula look nice and healthy. We get a nice long look at them.

The most amazing part is that the camera survived undamaged! Whoever makes GoPro cameras should totally use this fact in their advertising.

Fast. Fun. Functional. Feature-rich. Bearproof. GOPRO.

Also in video content, something even more disturbing and horrifying than the last one.

Apparently some chick known as Tan Mom made a music video.

And it is one of the worst things I have ever seen.

Seriously. That is so bad it would not make an episode of Tim and Eric’s Awesome Show. Even their most strenuous efforts to make things which are deliberately as awful as possible can’t keep up.

I have no idea why she is called Tan Mom or why that makes her famous.

I just know that I feel violated.

Moving on, let’s talk news. First we have this item about how the nurses who are treating Dzhohkar “The Boston Bomber” Tsarnaev feel about the experience.

The part of this that really struck me was this :

“You see a hurt 19-year-old and you can’t help but feel sorry for him,’’ one nurse told reporters. She said she and another nurse had to form a pact after she accidentally called Tsarnaev “Hon,” and they agreed to alert each other if they used a term of endearment with him again.

The nurses also declined to use their names in the interviews, fearing judgment from the public. Others said they felt guilty for doing a good job treating him.

“When you’re in the room, it’s just a patient. You’re here to . . . make sure they’re feeling better,” a 29-year-old nurse who initially treated Tsarnaev said. “When you step away, you take it in. I am compassionate, that’s what we do. But should I be? The rest of the world hates him right now. The emotions are like one big salad, all tossed around.”

And I just wanted to go on record as saying nobody should expect a nurse to be anything less than completely professional and compassionate. That is their job. It is not their job to pass judgment on those they treat and decide who deserves sympathy and who does not.

And really, this goes straight to the heart of my feelings about the spiritual nature of compassion. At this point, he really is just a hurt 19 year old boy. Human beings rarely turn into monsters in order to make it easier for us to hate them for what they did.

The worst villain you can imagine is still just a fragile, confused, imperfect human being who deserves compassion just like anyone else. That is why we call them human rights. They are the rights of all human beings, and nothing you or anyone else can do will ever change that.

I know that people get angry and when we are angry with someone we want to punish them. The easiest thing in the world is to decide people who have done terrible things are not human beings any more. Then we can do whatever we feel like to them and not feel bad about it.

But what can be more evil than hurting someone who is helpless before you, just to make yourself feel good? The line between them and us is thinner than we would like to believe.

For all we know, Dzhokhar thought he was punishing evil people who deserved whatever they got because their crimes meant they were less than human now.

I am not saying he is innocent or that he should go free. Justice must be served and he needs to be put someplace where he can’t hurt anyone any more.

I am just saying that the true test of our compassion is how we treat those we have every reason to despise. And if our ethics be true, we will treat them just like anyone else.

Lastly, we have this story about a school district dealing with a budget crisis in the most extreme way possbile : by just plain shutting everything down.

All the schools, all the classes, shut down as of now. They are not even going to finish out the school year. And I, for one, applaud this decision.

With the best of intentions, people in caring professions like nursing and education enable the abuse of those people in their care by always managing to make do with less every time their budget is cut.

This protects Philistine politicians from any and all consequences of their callous and thoughtless actions, and insures that their bad behaviour will continue.

The only way people will get the message is if they are the ones who will suffer for it, and that means no longer protecting them from the consequences.

And nothing lights a fire under parents’ asses like suddenly having to find and pay for a babysitter in a town where demand has suddenly shot through the roof.

There will be hell to pay. Heads will roll.

And because the teachers won’t even be teaching any more until the budget is fixed, the people’s wrath will have only one target : the budget-slashing assholes who caused the problem.

Society costs money, people. Civilization doesn’t come for free.

Grow the fuck up.