Independence versus sociability

Something happened recently that has me wondering just what kind of a person I am, and I thought I’d share the story and the thoughts that stem from it with my readers.

I’m totally addicted to an online game called Dungeon Fighter Online. It’s an MMPORPG that operates like those old “brawler” games like Final Fight and Double Dragon, but with a lot of RPG elements as well. So I spend a fair bit of every day beating up (and in my case, shooting, for I am a Gunner) various monsters and bad guys who represent the Implacable Forces of Evil, and in doing so, fulfilling quests, gaining XP, going up levels, getting loot, and all those other things that make RPG life fun.

Being a nonjoiner, to me, these types of games might as well be single-player. I don’t join guilds or parties or clubs. It’s just me, the monsters, and my love of kicking ass on evil.

And up until recently, that didn’t really bother me. A lonely childhood and an almost as lonely adulthood has made me the kind of person who just wants to do his thing by himself and get it done.

I always loathed group work in school.

And until recently, that worked out fine. Occasionally, some random stranger would send me a guild invitation, which just shows up as a window saying “Do you want to join X Guild?”, and I would click “no”, and go back to my monster thrashing.

(Seriously, does that ever work? Who joins some organization with who knows who in charge just because they were randomly asked? The same people who buy things from spam, I guess)

But yesterday, in the game, someone messaged me out of the blue to ask me to join his guild, and that made it a lot more personal. I had to turn him down to his face, in a virtual sense, instead of just clicking “no”, and that made me really think about why the hell I am so antisocial, and how conflicted I feel about it.

I didn’t turn him down right away. That would have been rude. Part of the conflict in me is that I am not your archetypical antisocial person. I am not grumpy, brusque, hostile, or even a little surly. In fact, in demeanour, I am quite friendly and pleasant, if a little aloof. And I like that about myself.

But the thing is, that’s just the social mask. I am friendly and polite, but I still don’t want to join your thing, and I am not terribly interested in your party or the night your band is playing at a club. I politely decline.

I am just not a joiner. But why? Why the hell not join? What’s the deal?

And I have thought about it, and the thing is this : I just cannot stand being subject to the will of others.

Sounds impossibly arrogant, doesn’t it? But it’s true. Perhaps if I had been properly socialized as a child instead of being bullied and ostracized, it would be different. I would have learned I could still be free while being part of something.

But I never had those experiences. So now, to join is very frightening to me. The idea of joining some group, with rules and relationships and expectations and all those other things I don’t know and don’t pick up on easily just sounds like a massive recipe for social suicide to me. I would inevitably just make people angry by making a lot of ignorant faux pas type mistakes because I don’t know how these things work, and it would just lead to me being rejected and ostracized once more.

That’s the tape that plays in my mind when the possibility of joining comes up. That’s the source of the deep panicky fear I felt when this random person asked me to join their guild. I hemmed and hawed and asked him a few questions about his guild, but I knew damn well I was not going to join.

There’s just too many variables. And when there’s too many variables, it comes down to trust. Trust in people, or trust in the benevolence or even the neutrality of the universe.

And I just don’t have any of that kind of trust. I only trust what I can understand. If I can’t compute all the variables in my mind, I have to just leave it be.

I believe they call the kind of trust I lack “faith”.

And I don’t have any.

A soggy sack of sleep

Having another bad day, of the sleeping all the time, dreaming really intensely, and feeling like utter crap variety, so today’s blog entry will be a mite less than a tightly organized and precisely machined word wonder. If you are lucky, I will at least remember to finish my.

Lucky for you all, my dreams, while vivid to the point of making me surprised when I woke up and had to remember reality (oh right…. reality…. I remember this! Gee, it’s been so long…. you’re looking good… ), my memories of said dreams are nowhere near complete enough to be worth telling, and frankly some of them are of the kind of dreams that are very nice to have, but you don’t tell anyone about them at all, so you are all spared another dramatic retelling of my adventures wandering around in my own mind.

Have I mentioned lately that my worst nightmare is to get trapped within my own mind, no distractions, no inputs, no escape? Because it is. That would be the ultimate claustrophobic nightmare of the agoraphobic mind, in my books.

Your mileage may vary.

No word from my doctor about test results and/or Avandia alternatives. This merely makes me fret more. I have never understood the idea that “no news is good news”. It’s stupid on the face of it, and suitable only for those people who are lucky and/or foolish enough to believe that the world is benign by default and that ignorance is bliss.

Myself, if I don’t hear anything about something I am worried about, it takes a profound act of will to keep from assuming the worst. I am the sort of person who is rattled by uncertainty and soothed by information. The more I know, the more I feel I can deal with the situation and make rational plans.

The less I know, the more I assume that reality is sneaking up on me from an unknown angle and just about to blindside me and fuck me up worse than ever before.

I realize this is not, strictly speaking, a logical attitude. Neither pessimism nor optimism are even remotely logical, because both make grand and unsupportable assumptions about the nature of reality and life on Earth. You cannot possibly know enough about all the lives in the Universe to declare whether life sucks rocks or just rocks. You can’t even assume you know whether your own life is wonderful or horrible. To do so, you would have to understand all the possibilities branching out for you from your current moment in time, and then be able to evaluate them all as positive or negative, and that is clearly impossible.

But we human beings are hardly restricted by logic, and as illogical as it may be, we just go right on feeling we know that our lives are wonderful or terrible, positive or negative, a helpless drag through a fetid swamp filled with broken rusty metal and tortured souls, or a long slow deep rainbow filled joygasm.

The thing is, I want to be a more positive person. I think it’s a better way to be. Optimism and pessimism might be equally illogical, but the optimists seem a hell of a lot happier. If you have to be wrong, might as well be wrong in the direction that feels better, right?

And negative people are just plain less fun. I would rather, in my heart of hearts, be a positive, uplifting, fun person whose enthusiasm is contagious and who inspires people to open up and be their best than a parade-raining balloon-popping hope-killer any day.

Even when I know I am right, and when I am performing the very important function of being the balance to people’s irrational exuberance and unwillingness to face harsh truths, being the Paranoia to their Confidence, I still feel like a jerk and like I would rather be a different kind of person.

Someone who can stay both positive of polarity and grounded in reality. Someone who can be both inspiration and guidance.

But I think in order to do that without becoming some sort of manic maniac, I would have to truly believe that the world is a wonderful place full of magical possibilities just waiting for me to go out and get them, and I just don’t know if I have that in me.

Perhaps the real solution is to simply withhold judgement about the world entirely, and retreat to a more existentialist and individualist position based on the notion that no matter how the world is, you’re going to give it all you got and try to be happy.

That’s something that maybe I can live with.

Well, that’s all for now, folks. Talk at ya later.

A medical update

Every once in a while, I remember that this blog is also my personal diary, and that by rights I should occasionally attempt to document the rudimentary strokes that minimally define this absurd a la reserche redux internal narrative that in the spirit of generosity the world permits me to call “my life”.

Well, it must be my life, because nobody else wants it.

So, yesterday, I visited the doctor. No panic, just the routine “give me more pills” visit. Joe, my ever-awesome roomie, drove me there and did some errands through the inevitable waiting for the doctor. They’re never on time and they don’t seem to car. Well, after all, it’s not their life, it’s ours.

The doctor’s visit went smoothly. Punctuality aside, I like my doctor. And I got him started getting me a therapist after I explained how the last one he sent me to… in January, eep.. was unsuitable partly because he had a combination of Indian accent and Old Person Talk that made him nearly incomprehensible, but mostly because his office was so tiny that a small desk and chairs barely fit in it, and I am claustrophobic, so that was a serious deal breaker. I cannot get therapy in a place that makes me crazy! That’s just logic.

Why did it take me so long to tell him this? I don’t know. Despite being a chatty person who talks and texts and writes all day, I have a serious communication problem when it comes to telling the people who need to know when it comes to things about my life.

I also got him started on getting me a new sleep specialist. The old one refused to take any more appointments from me after I flaked out on a few too many. Also a problem. Damn my highly variable yet extremely dull existence!

After the doctor’s, it was over to the medical testing place for my usual battery of tests, or so I thought. I had been fasting specifically for this, and by the time I saw the inside of the place, I had not eaten for nearly 12 hours.

Took a number, waited, they took my form, waited some more. The blood work went extremely smoothly. I barely felt the needle going in, just a pinch, really, and I didn’t feel it go out at all. I have the “sort of veins that like to hide”, so getting blood taken is always a bit of a gamble. Hence, having things go that smoothly is quite rare for me.

I wish now that I had memorized that blood tech lady’s name. I want her every time now!

She hands me the pee cup (gotta check for ketones) then tells me there is a “heart thing”. A what now? Doc Chao didn’t say a thing about that! Sudden terrible images of heart catherization and intubations from all the medical dramas I have watched flooded my mind. I always knew those would get me in trouble some day!

But of course, it was nothing like that. This is the modern era of non-invasive medical monitoring, after all. I just had to lay down on my back with my shirt off while the nice lady stuck little electrodes on various bits of me and lay there relaxing for five minutes or so. She wisely didn’t talk to me, so I just mellowed out and enjoying the little respite. At the end, the little ouch when she pulled the electrodes off was the most painful thing in the whole process.

So now I have had an ECG. Never had one before, except perhaps as a baby. I hope she didn’t find any problems, but I am a fat guy pushing 40, so I worry.

After filling the pee cup (no problems, had plenty), I had a very pleasant lunch at my favorite White Spot with Joe. I love that particular White Spot because they have comfy high backed squooshy chairs. Good food, stimulating conversation, and comfort? Yes please!

Sadly, in the excitement and kerfuffle, I forgot to get my pills! So today, I had to pop next door to get my refills. And that’s where the bad news came : Canada has finally gotten around to de-listing Avandia. You can’t get it here any more.

I knew this was coming, because the USA de-listed it last year due to concerns about its effect on the heart and the kidneys. I am glad I got to keep taking it as long as I have.

Because you know what the alternative is? Insulin.

Yup, I may be facing a future of poking myself with the needle all the time. Given my extremely poor history of medical compliance (apart from pills), I am dubious as to whether I can handle it.

As usual, my extremely dusty and unused sleep apnea machine glares at me accusingly. The far more unused blood sugar testing equipment in my bathroom gave up a long time ago.

Wish me luck, my friends. This might be the day things went from Bad to Worse, from “able to have a sad little normal life” to “pretty much sick all the time”.

I might soon be looking at my sad little life right now as “the good old days”.

So send your love and hope and positive vibes, folks!

An agreement on principle

{Scene opens on a lone unoccupied upscale podium in a single spotlight. Background noise is of subdued conversation and the clink of silverware and glasses, suggesting a formal dinner. The podium remains empty for a few long beats before a bleary-eyed man in disheveled formal attire enters the spotlight, back to camera. He turns around slowly, squints at the spotlight’s glare, shields his eyes with his arm for a moment, then takes a rather rumpled sheaf of paper out of a pocket in his jacket, and with the towering and elaborate dignity of the truly drunk, makes a show of putting the paper down on the podium, smoothing it out carefully, taking out his glasses and putting them on, and hrumphing and aheming until the noise dies down. He is inexpertly shaven, poorly combed, and a little unsteady. }

Speaker : Ahem. It is both my duty and my pleasure as the duly chosen spokesperson of this august assemblage to announce that, after a long and trying night of intense negot… nego…. talks, involving many important concessions made on both sides and deep sharing of mutual respect, as well as pitchers of beer, cocktails, and…. that red stuff Rabul was passing around later on…

Rabul : (off camera, shouted) It’s call (incomprehensible, vaguely Arabic sounding)

Speaker : Clicks and pops, Rabul. Whistles and beeps. (seems to forget his place for a moment) Anyhow….. ahem. Right. It is both my duty and my pleasure as the duly…. etcetera of this…. group, to announce that after… all of that other stuff…. we have arrived at a list of agreements in principle that I think you will all agree herald a new era of understanding between all men on the things which truly unite us. I will not read the entire list, as my time before you is limited and the list is quite…. uh, extensive. But I will share a sampling of items from said list and I think that will be sufficient for you to get the uh…. gist.

{Speaker shuffles papers for a few moments, as though looking for the right page, then ahs, clears his throat again, and begins. }

1. We are all in clear agreement that conflict and strife have taken far too heavy a toll on all sides, and that everyone involved is committed to ending the conflict so that we can all rebuild our lives and go back to how things were before this ugly conflict ever began.
2. Chocolate is frigging awesome. Seriously. Chocolate is like, the best tasting thing ever. Think about it. Every single person in the world likes chocolate. Name one another food like that, just one. You can’t. There isn’t one. That’s like… amazing. Chocolate. Amazing.
3. Tits can be too big. There’s such a thing as too much of a good thing. There was some debate on this point, but consensus was, in the eleventh hour, that tits can be too big if, um…. (squints at page, scanning it) “if they’re so big the chick can’t even, like, walk, or whatever. ”
4. Some guys…. some guys…. you know, some guys, just…. fuck’m. You know what I mean? Fuck’m. That’s all you can just. Just…. fuck those guys. Fuck’m. Right? Right.
5. Empire, also know as Episode V, is, objectively and scientifically speaking, the best of all the Star Wars movies. New Hope is great too, don’t get us wrong, and Jedi had some awesome parts despite all the fucking teddy bears, but still. Empire. Number one. Yoda, Lando, Luke losing his hand, Han being frozen at the end… come on. No comparison. (pause, then quickly and offhandedly) Oh, and of course, it goes without saying that the prequels all blow goat balls and Lucas should die of shame.
6. If you are out with your friends, and some douchebag is being a total asshole to some waitress for like no reason at all, and none of you do anything to stop him, then you are all equally to blame. None of this “Well you should have said something” bullshit. Everybody is to blame, and you all should kick in something extra in her tip, or you are just as bad as a douchebag himself.
7. Wax lips are gross and wrong on every possible level. Ditto candy corn.
8. Some guys, just….. (faint voice from the audience is briefly heard, incomprehensible)Oh, I did that one already? Shit. Still…. some guys, just…. fuck’m.
9. Nobody can actually prove that Marilyn Manson and Paulie Shore are two entirely different and separate human beings, and this fact should bring fear to the hearts of all right thinking people on the planet Earth.
10. Uh…. this one is a little hard to read, looks like someone added it in what appears to be pencil crayon later on… uh…. I think it says…. “brownies forever”? Uh, OK… (voices off) What? What does it say? What the hell is a “bronie”? Whatever.

I think you will all agree that this document is but the beginning of an historic process of building a foundation for a new era in which all men can live together in peace, harmony, and understanding, and it would be foolish to stop such a clearly epoch-making process before it can complete its historic work of….. history. Accordingly, I will now adjourn this meeting so that my colleagues and I can return to finding even greater accord, and respect, and cocktail recipes, until our job is truly complete, or at least until enough of us can remember where we parked to get the hell out of here. Meeting adjourned!”

{Speaker fishes through the papers on the podium for a gavel, finds none, shrugs and bangs on the side of the podium with his cellphone twice, then looks around as though looking for the way out of the spotlight, once more shading his eyes with his arm, then stumbles out of view. Belatedly, there is a smattering of applause from the audience. A few more seconds of ambient noise, along with a few coughs. )

THE END

Fib. Fam. Fobble. FOOB.

Today’s foobtastic article title is the work of the winner of a super secret contest held over the last three million years in a layer of reality where time means nothing, the speed of light is the same as that of a stiff walk into a light breeze, and parking tickets are given out by fat bottomed cherubs with kidney issues.

After millions of subjective years, billions of entries, trillions of rounds of judging, and hoompta-tri-quggi-dillions of thought molecules, the winner was a last-minute entry from a Doctor William Cosby, who describes his creative process as one of “inspiration, meditation, and flatulence” and declares his entry to be not only an episode title, but also a dinner mint, a floor topping, and an aggressive tone-poem attack on nonliteral transubstantiation without proper documentation.

Thanks, Doctor Cosby! Hope you enjoy your prizes of a thousand-week vacation to Ejaculation Island and a boot straight to the junk.

Onward with the foobs! Bit of a thin herd this week, but what the heck, the spirit of the fooble freedom fighters will carry on!

First up, I recently learned of the existence of a hilariously brazen and horrible scoundrel of the comic book industry named Rob Granito.

I first heard the name when going through the archives of a webcomic called Gutters and found this strip immortalizing Granito’s gall and bastardry by lampooning it.

This intrigued me. It sounded like this Granito guy might just be the kind of shameless shitbag that is fun to read about when you are not personally involved. And I haven’t been involved in the comics scene since 1990 or so, so he’s not peeing in my pool, so to speak.

So I looked him up, which was less than effortless because the guy doesn’t seem to have a Wikipedia page, or even an Encyclopedia Dramatica page, so there’s no one definitive place to go to get all the poop on this fecal accident of a fellow.

But this article here seems to have a fair bit of it.

This sack of low grade fertilizer’s modus operandi is to just plain claim other people’s artwork as his own. It’s the perfect crime for someone who is both lazy and shameless. And stupid, of course, because come on, dude, like you can get away with that shit in this day and age. There are millions of nerds who collectively (and sometimes individually) know absolutely every piece of comic art ever, along with who drew it, when they drew it, what kind of pencils they used, and what their cholesterol count was at the time. You will get busted so fast it will violate causality.

But hey, judging by the fact that the asshole in question wanted people to pay him $150 an interview based on how “everyone was talking about him”, apparently, he just wanted the attention and didn’t care how negative it was.

I have a small amount of respect for that, and for brazen hucksters in general.

Still, man, what a turdburger!

Our other major foob for the day is…. well, this thing.

As always, click to enlarge

You already want one just from the picture, don’t you? I did.

It’s possibly the most outrageously ambitious and imaginative concept car ever, and just to rub it in, it’s called…. get this… The Flake.

It’s like it’s daring you to take it seriously.

And listen to some of the details of this thing : for one, it’s covered in fur.

I am serious. Fur. The car… is furry. Fake fur, of course, thank goodness, but seriously, according to the designer, this special fur will make it more aerodynamic.

And, presumably, easier to heat in the winter, and nicer to cuddle up with.

All those flat surfaces can raise or lower automatically in order to change the actual shape of the vehicle to the best one for different circumstances, for example, lifting up the opposite side as you go into a turn.

Imagine being in a car that ripples and heaves around like that. It would take some bloody getting used to, to put it mildly.

Oh, and the wheels…. aren’t wheels. Well, not exactly. They are instead a ring of pads connected to a small central hub by more hydraulic tubes, so that the “wheel” can also shift shape to the optimal one for different driving conditions.

For example, at high speed, the bottom part of the “wheel” can flatten, exactly like those expensive Daytona racing tires, and hence the name of this wheel technology, the “D-Wheel”.

Shows they know that in order for your concept car to sound cool to people, it has to have parts that sound like something out of Speed Racer.

The article does not quite make it clear whether there is a working prototype of this car or whether it’s all just design ideas now, but I have to admit, I want to see one of these things in action. And I don’t normally care much about cars.

But come on. It’s a shape changing furry car! How can that not be cool?

Another day’s dreaming : Runaway Car

Once more, I spent most of a day a-slumbering, and I might spend more once I am done writing. Sleep is a wonderful thing, but losing a whole day to the Sandman is just plain depressing.

Once more, this also means that I spent time deep, deep down the Well of Dreaming, drowning in my own subconscious mind and having strange, deep, intense, multifaceted dreams that compel me to write about them in order to deal with them upon awakening.

So guess what happens now, kidderlings? Yup, you got it. Today’s episode is brought to you by What Happens In My Mind When The Lights Are Out, Inc.

As always, logic and sense are entirely optional and you should not take anything that emerges from the violently frothing cauldron too seriously. It’s just my brain working some shit out, with no more deep meaning than the doodles in the margin of a calculus text.

Alright, deep breath, here we go.

Today’s dreaming began with something particularly disturbing because it involves my friends. I don’t remember what happened before this in the dream, but I know that somehow, I had made my friends Joe and Felicity angry with me, in a sort of prankish not too serious way, or at least, that is what I thought at the time.

But then, they tricked me into getting into a car, on the passenger side, in which they had already deactivated the emergency brake, and then gave the car a shove from behind, leaving me in a car that was coasting downhill and onto the highway.

A bit more potentially homicidal than wacky, one would think, but in the dream, it all made sense and I was no more annoyed than if they had propped a bucket of water over a door and left me to get a good dousing.

Seriously. I just sort of rolled my eyes and lazily reached over to grab the steering wheel and steer. I am not sure why I didn’t just slide into the driver’s seat to do that instead of sitting there in the passenger seat. And even in the dream, I remember thinking the same thing. Wouldn’t it be easier to just slide into the driver’s seat? But either I didn’t think I had the time (being in a careening out of control car on the highway, after all) or I was somehow stuck in my passenger street. So there I stayed.

I am positive that has massive, deep symbolic meaning regarding my lack of taking control of my life except in dire situations and even then, not entirely, but I don’t feel like going into that now.

I will just let it sort itself out. I am sure that’s for the best.

So there I am, careering and careening down the dream highway in a runaway car, and doing pretty good at the whole not crashing thing, actually. But I know that I have to find someplace I can safely emergency-stop, because I can’t reach the brakes and so if I want to get out of this alive, I have to kill my momentum via aggressive driving and/or crashing as gently as I can into something soft.

So I am looking around for a suitable location, and I see this offramp to this sort of barren looking area, kind of like an abandoned quarry, and outside it, at some mysterious task, are some traditional Chinese farmers straight out of Central Casting.

I (somehow) ask them if I can stop there, and all I remember of that conversation is one of them managing to stammer out in broken English “We are… independent. ” I can only guess that I had asked them if they were working for the government of China?

So they let me in (the car aspect of the whole thing seems to have disappeared at this point, because dreams don’t give a fuck about closure, apparently) and hide me in this sort of trippy cavern underground, with big colorful mosses and lots of other Chinese peasant types lying around and hanging out.

By this point, I understood that somehow, the whole world was looking for me, in a benevlent way like I was a missing person of some importance, but for some reason, I still did not want to be found. I have a feeling that I was dodging responsibility, somehow.

Suddenly, the whole cavern system began to shudder, like someone was pounding on the roof with a hammer the size of a tractor trailer. Boom, boom, boom. Then these generic soldier types (berets, camo, sub-machine guns) storm in, followed by this huge fucked up Giger-type conglomeration of eyeballs and teeth and robot parts lumbers in on its claw-feet.

It’s at this point that it occurs to me that the shit is seriously going down, and I feel bad for bringing all this down on the nice, peaceful Chinese people who were kind enough to take me in.

The creature lumbers out of the room again, and the entrance is suddenly blocked by this gigantic yellow Eye of Sauron type eye, which pulses with different colors of light and rolls around and opens and closes. Everyone around me is screaming and freaking out, but I reach down and break a piece off rock off the floor of the cavern, and, carefully timing it for the moment in the eye’s cycle when it is totally open, I throw the rock at it… and it hits! It’s all very video game. There is even a brief “12 percent” hanging in the air, like that’s the amount of damage I did to the eye.

Encouraged by this, I try to get the rest of the people around me to join in, but I can’t seem to make them understand that you have to wait for the right moment.

The last thing I remember in the dream is yelling to people “No, you have to wait… just throw when I throw, OK?”

So I don’t know if we won, or anything. My memory of the dream just ends. Fin. Credits.

So what’s it all mean? Hell if I know. I have no idea what the secret cavern of the Chinese peasants represents. I am intrigued by the fact that, in the latter part of my dream, I was somehow so important that the whole world was looking for me. That’s positive, compared to my usual lack of self-esteem.

Do I feel, on some level, like I am hiding out from the responsibility implied by my own potential? If so… that’s kind of sad. 🙁 But illuminating.

Like all really good dreams, this one has really given me a lot to think about. Maybe it was Joe and Felicity who started me on this journey because I secretly wish someone close to me would give me the push I need to get going in life… and that after that, I would be spared having to generate my own momentum.

Or perhaps, of course, I’m just fucked up in the head.

Always a possibility.

Well, that’s it for now folks. Tune in next time my brain decides it’s time to mess me up!

Friday Science Roundup, August 12, 2011

This crazy old mossy mudball upon which we stubbornly cling and insist on calling “Earth” (because calling it “Dirt” would be declasse’)has spun on its axis seven times since the last time I emptied my bucket of science news jewels into your lap, milady, and so it must be time to do the whole thing all over again.

So here I am, your classically competent collator of cromulent contributions to the Knowledge of Humanity, once more sifting the sands of science for your very own personal benefit.

And what the hell, I will even share my thoughts on each item too. You lucky stiffs!

First up : scientists have discovered the blackest planet ever.

No racial message here, it is just plain literally the blackest planet ever observed, absorbing nearly all of the light that falls on it. It’s blacker than coal. It’s blacker than flat matte black paint. It’s just plain really, really, really black.

And at the center of this Jupiter-sized exoplanet of ultimate blackness, in the shadow of the blackest heart of the blackest planet around the darkest star ever, you find this guy.

And if you find him…. and if your skin is lighter than burned toast, you won’t…. but if you find him there, you will find him…. angry.

Admittedly, it’s debatable how important finding the blackest planet ever seen will turn out to be to science in general or astrophysics in particular. It will be interesting to speculate on what the heck it’s made of to make it so damn black, but really, the main interest is poetic, or aesthetic.

The idea of “the blackest planet ever” just seems made for rampant science fiction fiddling. Maybe it’s a giant energy collector for some energy-hungry aliens who live at the center and who need every single bit of energy that strikes the surface of the planet just to survive.

Maybe it’s the central temple of some void-worshiping energy beings who use it both for all their important religious ceremonies and for the execution of their worst criminals, who are tossed into That Which Eats All.

Or maybe it’s just the Locknar. Or that evil planet thingy from Fifth Element.

And the science fiction fodder just keeps coming, because the big news from NASA’s family of researchers is that we seem to have found some DNA from space in a sample from a meteoroid.

Caution is the watchword with a story like this, both because of the potential colossal hugeness of the find and the potential for a false positive due to external contamination.

I mean, this is Earth, we got DNA all over the damn place, from the microbes in the air to the whales in the sea and everything in between. You can’t get away from the stuff!

And, you know, you’re full of it too. DNA, I mean.

And we are not, alas, talking about a full double helix from some alien creature, only awaiting the right combination of genetic science and complete ignorance of science fiction B-movie plots to be brought to life before us.

Instead, it’s more like bits of chemicals that could become DNA. There’s two of the four DNA “letters” plus some other DNA-ish junk. But the important thing is that it proves that pre-life type chemistry in floating space rocks.

This would bolster the panspermia hypothesis, which posits that life on Earth might have actually gotten its start from materials that fell to Earth from space. A comet, a meteor, the glowing substance from a Happy Fun Ball, something like that.

One more item to round out the troika…. hmmm, I had it somewhere here…… there was one more, I am sure of it…. oh right, here it is. Rich people are evil.

Or at least, significantly more evil than the average person. Less empathetic, less altruistic, less compassionate, less caring. All the attributes traditionally associated with morality the world over are things they lack, or actively reject.

I have been saying for a while that wealth infantalizes. The richer someone becomes, especially when they reach the point of decadence where interpersonal relationships are replacing with dictatorial relationship and the ability to identify with your fellow humans becomes less and less necessary. The ability to have whatever you want, whenever you want it, spoils adults just as surely as it does children. In fact, it does it faster, because the person is basically spoiling themselves. And just like with children, it makes them selfish, impatient, quick to anger, rude, dismissive, and just plain unpleasant.

It makes them, in fact, infants. They get everything they want via crying in anger, they are cranky and fussy, they refuse to take care of themselves and make others do it, they are demanding and impossible to please because they basically want a return to the womb, where everything is provided for them without them even having to ask.

And infants, of course, lack empathy. They are sociopaths, because they do not even have a sense of people as valid beings, just as means to satisfying their desires.

And because they are so firmly stuck in the decadence trap, they are often deeply unhappy people who lash out against the world, blaming their inability to be happy with their wealth on others. And they see the world entirely in a self-based morality. Anything they don’t like is evil and bad and mean and done just to hurt them. There can never be any possible moral justification for doing the slightest thing that displeases them. That, in their infantile moral language, is a program that just does not compute.

And in our broken world, they have more political power than everyone else, and want the world turned into their personal playpen, ground down into a never-ending bottle of pablum for their greedy guts, and anything else is just plain wrong.

So…. um…. science.

Science is still cool. Right?

The true meaning of decadence

Between various despotic and autocratic pseudo-communist regimes using the word “decadent” to describe anything they didn’t like (including the corrupt Western idea that you need to eat food or you’ll die) and the way modern megacompanies plaster the word “decadent” on anything they want to charges you an extra 20 percent on because it’s so “sinful” (Try our sinful, decadent, indulgent douche rinse now!), the word “decadent” and, by extension, the entire concept of decadence has taken quite a beating in the last century or so.

Add in the historical complications created by a Catholic church that condemns decadence from a triple-gilded and bejeweled Vatican, and the equally crazy Protestant extremists declaring war on any idea that life should be even slightly pleasant for even a second in its name, and it’s no wonder that the very word has disappeared from the living language.

Nevertheless, I think it is a valid concept, and something to be understood so that it can be guarded against and avoided whenever possible.

The problem is not that it is not a valid concept but that it has been used without being properly defined and hence used in so many different context that it loses all meaning.

Here, then, is what I consider to be the proper definition of decadence.

But first, I am afraid, we need to start with Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.

It looks like this :

As always, click to enlarge

Those of you who have taken Psych 101 or Philosophy 101 in college have probably seen it before. It’s a very simple idea : that human being have a great many drives/needs besides the basic biological ones needed to keep us alive, and that these can be arranged in a rough pyramid, with the lower levels in large needing to be satisfied before an individual can concentrate on higher levels.

A classic example that anyone can understand is that if someone is starving to death, they are going to spend most of their time thinking about food instead of, say, whether their clothes are in fashion.

But while we all understand that level of the hierarchy, what we almost always fail to see is that this progression does not end with the usual amenities of middle class life, and that satisfying the needs on one level inevitably brings the ones of the next level into sharper focus. Thus, satisfying one level can actually make a person feel less happy, as now the needs of the next level are crying out to be filled.

The worst consequences come from when people, for whatever reason, cannot acknowledge or satisfy the newly awakened needs of the next higher level, and instead attempt to drown out the pain of the higher level need with the pleasures of the current level.

My definition of decadence, therefore, is this : the misguided attempt to satisfy a higher-level need via lower-level means.

The classic example of decadence serves this definition well : the excesses of ancient Rome.

We all know the stories. Orgies, feasts, palaces, vomitoriums, in a never-ending cycle that grow more and more obscene and grotesque until whole villages were burned simply to provide a backdrop for the next horror of decadent excess.

But if you look at Maslow’s chart, you will see that for all their attempts to make themselves happy, all they were doing was hyper-saturating their lower desires while completely ignoring the vast amount of the pyramid above them.

That is what drives the excess. The more the lower level needs are satisfied, the more painful the denial of higher level needs becomes, but without a way to acknowledge let alone satisfy higher level desires, the only remedy for the pain is to increase the dosage on the lower level pleasures.

This is akin to what would happen if you try to treat your broken arm by taking painkillers. The condition worsens and more and more painkillers are needed to function, and it’s clearly not a long-term solution. But if you can’t get to a hospital…

This is also what leads to the highly modern phenomenon of the person who “has everything” and finds themselves still unhappy. They did everything they were supposed to do, and have the nice house, the good job, the car, the spouse, the kids. But they are still not happy.

How can that be? It must mean there is something very wrong with them, right?

Wrong. Look at the chart. All those “American Dream” things only take you so far up the pyramid, and “having it all” actually just makes you feel your lack of success in satisfying the higher needs all the more keenly.

In fact, one of the most shocking and heretical conclusions that follow directly from my understanding of decadence and human needs is that money can only take you so far.

The higher up the pyramid you go, the less effective money is at satisfying the need. Money is great for providing your biological needs, and pretty good for providing high quality safety, shelter, physical pleasure, entertainment, and so on.

But once you start thinking about needs like feeling connected to your community, happiness in your personal relationships, and self-actualization, wealth can help with these a little bit, but they are going to be far more strongly determined by aspects of your own personality and character, and those of the people in your life.

And when wealth becomes great enough, it actually can actively work against some or all of your higher level needs being fulfilled by providing you with so much short term pleasure to distract you and isolating you from most of the rest of humanity.

And that is where decadence truly takes its toll. When a person is stuck on a lower level, the inevitable result will be increasing unhappiness, even despair, no matter how thoroughly they satisfy their lower level needs.

Once you understand this principle, a lot of middle class and upper class problems become fair more clear and easy to understand.

There is no final happiness…. only satisfying one level and starting on the next.

Anything else is just mindless decadence.

How to make an indie movie

First, start with a main character your target audience will identify with, namely someone in their early to mid twenties who is either just out of college or just about to graduate at the beginning of the movie.

As our movie begins, have some profound but mundane personal tragedy occur to them. Someone they know dies, a long term relationship breaks up, they lose their job, they do something crazy in a moment of uncharacteristic extreme emotion that completely derails their life. It has to be something that your audience can identify with, so keep it realistic.

The unrealistic, possibly science fictional or magical realistic element will come in later.

During or after the mundane personal tragedy with which you open your original indie movie, you show your main character’s mundane, crappy life. Their crummy apartment in the city, their weird roommate, their colorful but believable friends and/or co-workers, their jerk of a boss, maybe a parent or two.

The idea is to paint a portrait of their lives as being just like your target audience’s lives, so the movie will feel like it is really about them. To this end, work in themes of not being able to get a job with your impractical college degree, feeling alienated in a world that you don’t get and who doesn’t get you, and if possible, work in music from your friends’ indie bands and references to whatever graphic novels you like.

Once you begin to need to have a plot, introduce your unusual, magic-realist element. This not only provides a hook for what otherwise would be obviously just another indie movie, but keeps the audience interested while you slowly work through your basic romantic plot.

Yes, your breathtakingly original indie movie that Hollywood could never make because they are too busy making the next “talking animals make poop jokes” classic will, in actually, just be a standard romance movie in different clothes and locations.

But first, you need that hook. It will have to be something strikingly odd and visually arresting that your main character, in order to show how cool and indie your movie is, will treat somewhat or entirely casually, like this is odd but not big deal.

Also, it should be something with a really obvious metaphorical nature. Your main character feels abandoned and ignored? They discover they can disappear into a magical realm where they are important. Betrayed and disillusioned by someone turning out to be a much worse person than previously thought? They discover they can now see the hidden demons that cause all the evil in the world.

Things like that.

Oh, and don’t worry about firmly establishing whether this is really happening or whether it’s just the main character losing his or her mind in a particularly cinematic way. Your audience will interpret your creative laziness in not making up your mind either way as carefully chosen ambiguity that shows how much you respect their intelligence because you are not spoon-feeding them the answers, but leaving your audience to make up their own minds about how real it all is.

This excuse has worked for at least fifty years, and shows no sign of wearing out, so don’t worry, you are covered.

As for the plot, if you have seen even one romance movie in your life, you already know exactly what the plot arc will be. Your main character meets someone, falls in love with them, they grow closer through most of the arc of the film, then near the end, there will be a sitcom style misunderstanding that drives them apart and prompt your main character to have to do a big grand romantic gesture, often referencing lots of little details from their relationship as shown up till now (“I checked every store in town for that brand of dental floss you said you liked, and when I finally found it…. I bought the whole case!”) in order to make your audience go “awww!”.

This romantic gesture will not seem to work at first, in order to drag out the tension that once extra beat, but then it will totally work, and the film will end with our two lovers finally totally getting together, for real, with an implied happily ever after.

Oh, and because your indie movie is “realistic”, you will need to sprinkle in some “realistic” awkward moments in the relationship, you know, like the ones you never see in movies, assuming you haven’t seen anything made after 1960 or so.

Oh, and to prove your indie cred, be sure to use as much weird cinemetography and unusual editing choices as possible. Track from a rooftop conversation to one on the street below. Have your character fall out of a window and land in bed, asleep. Why? Because you’re outside of the box, man! You’re free! You can do whatever you want! So you’re obligated to show everyone that you know it and give the film school types something to babble on about in their faux-industry lingo.

Well there you have it. Throw in some hip pop-culture laden comedy for your comic-relief everybody but the two leads, a B plot line for whatever character seems the most audience friendly, and you have yourself a brand new breaktakingly original, impossible to make in Hollywood, fresh and groundbreaking indie movie.

You know, just like all the other ones you like!

What makes them this way

Been slowing learning the details of the rioting in London, and been talking about it with some friends, some British, some not, and it’s brought a lot of thoughts to mind about how these sort of things can happen, and what they mean.

A lot of people are wondering what the hell happened to make a whole generation of young people willing to riot like this. The news is full of interviews with rioters displaying their extraordinarily ugly vocabulary, mindset, stupidity, ignorance, and general vileness.

It’s easy and natural to lay it all at these people’s feet, and a lot of people are going to be drawing the wrong sort of conclusions as to what makes someone like that.

“Oh, we were too soft of them!” people will say. “Obviously, what these young people need is more harshness and cruelty in their lives, that always makes people more civilized. ”

It’s the shortest distance out of really thinking about things, and the quickest route to the fun of good deep righteous punitive anger. String them up! Yeah!

After all, chavs, and their equivalents worldwide, are horrible on nearly every level. They seem almost designed to make middle class people recoil in horror. There is little difference between the people rioting in London and the ones entertaining the masses on Jersey Shore every week.

But if we do not want these things to occur again, or spread to our own shores, we have to ask ourselves how people get like that. How do you get these ignorant, angry, ugly, stupid, senseless, violent people in the first place? What made them like that?

I have seen these people in my own home town, and talked to them, and thought about their lives and how they ended up like that, and I think I know.

Many people will blame government assistance, and in a sense they are right, but not in the simple-minded punitive rageful way they think. The problem is the long-term dependance that necessitates the assistance in the first place.

Being unemployed is depressing. Depression makes people less capable of work. Chronic unemployment in a region simply intensified this cycle. People lose the ability to hope for work or even to think of themselves as capable of work.

Long enough on public assistance, and they, being human beings, adjust to their new existence. You can only hope for a job for so long before that hope has to die before it kills you. And when that vital link to society known as work is gone, people lose their ability to cope. Human beings have a deep, driving need to take their place in society. When society says “We have no place for you, here’s a check, go away” it causes a kind of pain that drives people crazy in a very nasty, deep way.

The drive and intelligence dies in them, or is focused on the one form of advancement by merit left open to them, namely finding new and innovative ways to scam more money out of the system. Hope dies, and with it, the ability to progress as a person.

This is bad enough when it happens to adults with life experience to fall back on, memories of times when they were accepted into society and made to feel useful.

But if the problem persists, said adults raise children who inherit this profound lack of hope, who have never lived in a working family, and who grow up in the resulting milieu of drug use, alcoholism, sexual excess, domestic violence, abuse, and all the other horrible results of chronic poverty and unemployment.

When people can’t find work, they can’t grow up. It’s truly that simple. And so they end up suspended in a perpetual angry adolescence, filled with rage they don’t know how to name at a society they know is to blame but can’t explain how.

Society failed them. That doesn’t make them any less responsible for their crimes, but it does lead to a possible solution.

We have to recognize, as a society, as a globe, that chronic unemployment is an emergency-level problem. People going jobless for a long time is a crisis that goes far beyond simply feeding and clothing them.

We have allowed the system to collect these people with the best of intentions, but without the understanding and vision to know that what people need is not just cash, but work.

Hire them. Put them to work. And not just “dig a hole and fill it up” work, get them doing something with visible results, something where they can feel a sense of accomplishment, like they earned their paycheck by contributing to society.

FDR had the right idea. Public works. Those men built things people would use for generations, things that are still in use today.

Sure, some of them will balk at first. They are terrified to hope that they can actually have a place, a real place, in society. They have grown used to the sad life of the unemployed. They see attempts to get them to work as attempts to make them grow up.

And they are right.

But it’s the only cure. And in the long run, it is far cheaper to put them to work than to put them in jail.

We just have to be willing to see past our anger and disgust, slow down our urge to punish and control, and address the real problem.

People need work. And when the private sector fails them, the public must step in.