My CT scan

Going for the CT scan of my lower right abdomen tonight.

This is what passes for excitement in my life.

Hell, this is what passes for adventure.

Anyhow, yeah, I said tonight. Got a phone call yesterday asking if I could come into Medical Imaging at Richmond Hospital at 8 pm tonight and I said yes, even though that will be disruptive to our usual plans.

Better a little disruption than to have them say, “Can’t make it? Well the next open spot is in FEBRUARY. ”

So what the hell. Go in there, get’r done.

At least it’s at Richmond Hospital. I am quite comfortable there. I was there a lot when I was going through their psychiatric outpatient “Core” program, which went for five days a week for ten weeks. And I have been there now and then via the ER since.

Including that period where I was going there every other day to get the dressing changed on my wound when I had that big infection on my left knee.

Wound is still there, by the way. Even though the doctor at the wound care clinic told me it would heal on its own and I didn’t need to go there any more.

But in her defense, there was a procedure she really wanted to do on another patient and giving me proper health care would have interfered with that.

The choice was clear.

My point (and I do have one) is that Richmond Hospital is a familiar place to me, and thus will not put as much strain on my social anxiety as an entirely new place.

And I have had CT scans before. That’s the one with the big white ring and the metal slab you lie on that moves back and forth through the ring.

The ring’s a little scary when you know it’s a crazy strong electromagnet. And I don’t care what anyone says, I can feel things like that.

My nervous system is like an antenna and that antenna picks up a lot of things, most of which I filter out, but when I am around strong electromagnetic fields, I can feel a pull almost like gravity on every nerve in my body.

It’s the same feeling I used to get when I passed by a big electrical substation on my way to high school. The kind with a lot of exposed wires that hum faintly.

Sometimes I would lean against the fence looking in and just let that electromagnetic flux wash over me, enjoying the freaky sensations of it all.

But not for long, because before too long some seriously unsane thoughts would start tugging at my mind and make me need to GTFO pronto.

I can totally see how some people become convinced that some form of electromagnetic waves are screwing with their minds.

Seems to me like insanity would find it easy to crystallize around something so freaky and real as electromagnetism’s effect on the human nervous system.

Thank goodness I never went there.

I credit my solidly rationalist mindset for keeping me sane. It shuts the crazier thought right down with cold hard logic.

Still, scientifically speaking, I am quite curious as to what it is like inside a Faraday cage. Would I feel any different? Maybe a little more relaxed, a bit more calm? Like I was in a truly quiet room for the first time in my life?

Probably not. But I would love to find out.

More after the break.


A few milliliters of freedom

Patient readers know I have compulsions.

And not the usual kind, the kind where you might be tortured by pain most people can’t imagine but at least your apartment is clean.

Very, very clean.

No, mine are more a forest sub-major compulsions that never got it together enough to become a diagnosable disability or even a serious issue in my life.

Instead, they just nag and hound me and bend me to their will by sheer persistence.

And to be honest, most of the time, I am still their bitch. I do what they tell me to do both because the stakes are so low that it doesn’t seem worth the effort to deny them and because they make an excellent substitute for having to decide things myself.

That is both pathetic and sad. But it’s my reality.

But lately I occasionally have the will and the timing to defy them. And when I do, it can be confusing, but ultimately very freeing.

For example, when I have the courage to “waste” something.

By far, my biggest compulsion cluster those having to do with resource conservation and its evil nemesis, “waste”.

This set of compulsions demands that I never “waste” anything, even in situations where nothing is actually being wasted and the urge is clearly insane.

For example, if I load a bunch of songs into Winamp, and then I step out of the room and miss one, I feel intense guilt because I “wasted” the playing of the song.

Like I said : clearly insane. Nothing was wasted. The MP3 is still there. I can play it any time I want, as many times as I want. There is not less of anything as a result.

No important numeral was decremented.

You get the idea.

This brings us to the little bit of Diet Coke that was left in the bottom of my glass when I wanted to fill said glass with water to drink.

My compulsion demanded that I drink that last little bit of diet cola in order not to “waste” it. Even though I neither needed nor wanted it.

Okay, said my compulsions, we’re prepared to be reasonable. You could also go find a container in which to preserve this tiny amount of liquid for later.

You know, some later time when only 2 ml of Diet Coke will hit the spot.

But I said no to both those reasonable ideas and poured the Diet Coke down the god damned drain instead.

And even though my compulsions screamed like I had just emptied my canteen into the sand while I was crossing the Sahara, I did not listen to that devil’s choir.

And it felt good.

It felt, in fact, like freedom.

Freedom won a milliliter at a time.

I will talk to you nice people again tomorrow.

An unpleasant encounter

Tried to ask a friend for help today. Got yelled at instead.

I wanted her help in selecting a new monitor to purchase. I want a new one mostly for higher resolution gaming but also to see if it might fix my Facebook issue.

Said issue is basically that ever since Facebook’s last reformat, I have not been able to access my Notifications. When I click the icon for them, they show up offscreen, with only their left edge actually showing up on the right side of my screen.

This fucking sucks. I need my notifications! Otherwise, how will I know when people reply to all the hilarious and/or brilliantly insightful things I say?

So I figured a higher resolution screen would have more visual real estate and therefore all of Facebook might fit on the screen then.

The following is NOT VERBATIM. But it gets the idea across.


I mentioned this to my friend as part of why I wanted a new monitor, and she flipped out.

What? Why do you need a new monitor?

Because mine only goes up to 1920×1080, and because…

70 percent of the monitors in the world only go up that far!

Pretty sure that’s not the case, and anyhow…. this Facebook thing…

That’s a software problem! A new monitor won’t fix that!

Well it might. Anyhow, I wanted your help in choosing a monitor because I don’t understand the technobabble about them any more, and../.

Look, I am just trying to keep you from wasting money on a new monitor. But clearly you don’t want my help. So goodbye.

And then she logged off.


Whiskey tango foxtrot was that?

And the thing is, this has happened to me many times before in my life. I go to someone for help and instead they freak out and start yelling at me and I am left shellshocked and feeling really confused and betrayed.

Heck, it’s happened with Joe, and he’s one cool, level headed dude.

So what the hell is going on? Somehow, when I go to people asking for help, there is a chance it will raise the emotional stakes somehow and the person will panic and said panic will be expressed by getting mad at me.

It must have something to do with how I activate the “clueless but sweet” nurturing area of people’s brains

The Baby Yoda Region, to use the scientific term.

Mostly, this works to my benefit, but occasionally it overloads people’s circuits and things get muddled in their minds and they end up mad at me instead.

No wonder I have such a hard time asking for help. Sheesh.

It’s happened with my parents, my siblings, my teachers, my friends, even one time with the receptionist at Doctor Robinson’s[1] office for Christ’s sake.

And perpetual innocent that I am, it always comes as a very painful and upsetting surprise. That’s the last thing I expect when I go to someone for help.

I really need to understand and own all my powers. I really have no idea what effect I have on people. I’ve had this pose of innocence for so long, where I freeze and wait for someone to explain things to me, that it is hard to imagine being any other way

But it’s not the right attitude for a grownup, and that is what I want to be. Finally.

I need to get the fuck over myself.

And I will.

Just as soon as I find the way.

More after the break.


Doctors and me

I’ve had the same problem with every doctor I have ever had, and when the same shit keeps happening to you over and over, the odds are very high that the problem is you.

After all, you’re the only common factor.

The problem is complex and therefore rather hard to put into words, but it all boils down to assertiveness. Specifically, the ability to speak up for myself in the doctor’s office and tell them what my problems are.

When I am in front of my doctor, I tend to panic at being put on the spot by an authority figure, and when one panics all one cares about is escape and so suddenly I can’t think of a single thing to complain about.

I assume this is exactly like those people I have heard about who study hard for the test but then the second the test is in front of them, their minds go blank.

Adrenaline has amazing powers to clear the mind. And suppress one’s higher reasoning functions. Like, say, complex recall.

Anyhow, I panic and my mind goes blank. But I am very good at hiding that. As far as the world can see, I’m smiling happy Fru and everything is just fine, thanks.

Sad to think of how I got that way. It’s the selfsame need to escape. Because of early experiences with people not really wanting to hear about my problems, I learned to just give people what they wanted, which was obviously for me to say everything was A-OK, two thumbs up chief!

This allowed them to sink gratefully back into completely forgetting I exist.

Their gratitude gratified me. Especially because it meant they went away.

And I am still that way. It’s only with my recent downturn in health that I have gained the courage to bring my legit, distinct, definitely not hypochondria problems to my GP.

It’s not impossible that the net effect of my getting sicker will be my ending up better than before because I am finally getting these problems addressed.

That would be adorably ironic, don’t you think?

I just feel bad about all the time I wasted being angry with my various GPs for, essentially, not being mind readers or somehow dragging my problems out of me like the Spanish Inquisition.


Cardinal Richlieu : Confess, sinner!
Me : Never! My innocence will save my soul… and damn yours!
Cardinal Richlieu : Very well….BRING OUT THE ADS WITH GLARING LOGIC MISTAKES AND MISUSE OF THE ENGLISH LANGUAGE!
Me : No no, I’ll talk…. I have these painful welts on my right foot, and…
Richlieu sternly adds things to my patient history.


That line about my innocence is pretty damned good. I should use it somewhere.

Anyhow, to sum up, the problem isn’t doctors. It’s me.

I will talk to you nice people again tomorrow.





Footnotes    (↵ returns to text)
  1. My former family doctor