Yup. It’s another video!

You know, fella, when you talk about “false stereotypes”, it kind of implies the existence of true ones Which ones might those be?

Anyhow, on with the show!

A. INTJs are honest

Yup. Like the vid says, we don’t inherently want to sugar-coat anything. However, in my case, that is well tempered by my being both highly realistic and extremely sensitive.

That means that I cannot pretend that being disinclined towards softening my words somehow means I don’t have to do so.

I hold myself fully accountable for all the reasonably foreseeable consequences of my actions, and I know that my natural bluntness can really hurt people.

So I learned to be diplomatic. I choose my words very carefully because I am always on a tightrope between honesty and sensitivity.

I won’t lie to you. I won’t lie to anyone, really. But I will make the truth hurt as little as possible unless I am VERY out of sorts.

B. INTJs are too efficient

NO SUCH THING!

OK, not really, but I felt that part of me had to have its say or it would never shut up.

At first I was going to strongly object to him accusing me of being a perfectionist. I can’t stand perfectionism. It’s so inefficient!

But I suppose it IS rather perfectionistic of me to feel the need to point that out,

It does upset me greatly when people are being inefficient. But that does not entitle people to obey me when I point it out. I still have to talk them into it.

Or at least explain myself sufficiently.

Put me in a leadership position, however, and I might become quite demanding. And I am aware of this as a dark road I might go down if I don’t watch myself.

C. INTJs are intimidating

This again. Yeah we sure can be. For one thing, our combination of swift decisiveness and confidence can make it easy to end up accidentally pushing less decisive types around without meaning to.

Even if we are being polite and reasonable about everything, the sheer power and speed of how we think means we can make ten moves in the time it takes someone else to make one, and that is freaking terrifying.

So as much as it sometimes feels like it’s going to kill me to slow down to the speed of everyone else, again, I don’t think that means I don’t have to do it.

D. People think it’s hard to gain an INTJs trust

And they’re right, at least in my case.

But it depends on what kind of trust we are talking about. I don’t think the world is full of backstabbing liars out to get me, for instance.

On the other hand, there are few people I feel I can rely on. To me, the world is inconstant, easily distracted, and not very invested in what it’s doing. ^[1]

So whilst I am friendly and pleasant towards all, most people I would not trust with anything of value.

Harsh but true.

More after the break.

[[1]] Which is also how I would describe my family. Not a coincidence. [[1]

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E. INTJs are extremely independent

Yup, Or as one teacher described me, “self-contained”. And unlike some of these other attributes, I really don’t feel like I have a choice in this one and there’s no wiggle room.

Mine is a discrete and self-motivating world. I can’t imagine anything else being compatible with how driven I am to make things better. I can’t handle waiting for consensus or pausing to let the slowest ones catch up.

I need to move ahead NOW. Try and hold me back and you become just another obstacle for me to overcome and I will go over, around, or through you.

When I am in full INTJ mode, the world is divided into three categories : aids, impediments, and irrelevancies.

I know this is harshly robotic and mechanical to most people. I totally understand that. It seems that way to me, too.

Nevertheless, it’s a deep and fundamental part of who I am.

As for caring about others, it would hurt me deeply if people thought I didn’t care about anyone just because I keep a cool head and can make difficult decisions.

That doesn’t mean I don’t care. I care deeply. I am constantly looking to make things better for everyone. The humanist concerns are always paramount to me.

I just think that being coolly rational and yes, calculating is the best way for me to get the best outcomes, all things considered.

Or at the very least, that’s the best way for me to do it.

F. INTJs are nice

Well I know I am!

Seriously, though, this would not shock me at all because I’ve been considered a nice person for most of my life. My default persona is sunny and sweet and I am genuinely concerned with the welfare of everyone and want people to be happy and do well.

But I admit, in some circumstances, I end up expressing that in ways that seem baffling to people who operate on an entirely different set of variables than I do.

So I must seem almost treacherously schizophrenic to people who have only known the warm and fluffy Fru to see me switch into “computer mode”.

To me there is no conflict. I have different modes for different purposes, but they are just tools. Costumes I can switch between. But the person inside the fursuit never changes.

G. INTJs are way too strong

Oooh, I can totally see how I could come across like that. That quick, clever and confident manner of mine could easily be taken as bulletproof strength by someone not in possession of the full picture.

And they wouldn’t be wrong, exactly. That strength represents real power and effectiveness in the world. People like me can draw and direct great power to ourselves because we can move through the world with such confidence and clarity.

But I’m no Superman. I’m actually quite sensitive and vulnerable, especially in my private moments when I am just me unto myself. I take everything in on a very deeply level and that’s as much how I choose to live as it is my fundamental nature.

I’d rather be sensitive and get the full information that brings than be numb and known nothing about what’s really going on.

If that means I get hurt sometimes, fine.

That’s information too.

I will talk to you nice people again tomorrow./